So my husband decided to be a drug addict throughout my 3 years of marriage! Toatally pulled the wool over my eyes. Just like hubby 1 jackasses. I’m beginning to hate men all together for real it’s like torture dude. If there not not raping or melesting me. Mocking or beating the crap out of me they are turning my life completely upside down. I gave this marriage my all. I did everything I was asked by his family oh keep him out of jail and trouble etc. Watch over him and make him happy. I spent 3 years babysitting a 46 year old and I’m 32. How the F is that even fare? What about me and the promise to love me and have my back? What about our home and my cat? My job and all my friends? What the heck is wrong with men? Why am I, always told I’m bad because I picked him? I have a broken picker because of my mom or my fucked up family? When am I worthy of Love? Am I even worthy of Love? I’m staying with my sister and she’s being great but I’m terrified she’s going to turn on me and kick me out. I don’t know she’s turned her back before. I just have to trust God in all this I guess.
I’m just scared and lost. I haven’t heard from my husband since i left home to move here which is good i need to divorce him as much as i love him and don’t really want to. but hey sometimes love isn’t enough and i just need to be me and love dragon girl for once. plus i love having family in my life its pretty awesome. especially being by the ocean and back home again. My mom won’t speak to me it’s driving me crazy. wish she would since I’m close by but whatever what can one do when there adopted by family that wants to silence gossip to protect the family name and shuts you out at 18. all i know is I’ve lost my home, my job, my cat, and almost all my friends because of the ashore i married and its messed up. Why, he did drugs got kicked out of rehab. Robbed his boss our landlord and got me evicted. Question of my day how do i pic up the pieces of my crushed heart and where do i go from here?????
dragongirl327@outlook.com
You’ll be fine. 🙂 Just stay with the sis. Get a new job. Get a new cat. Nothing you have lost cannot be replaced.
And the next rule is don’t date criminals. I know you care and I know you understand but honestly – the investment isn’t worth it. The mindset of people who are used to getting away with doing bad things is not the mindset that’s going to look after you! 😀
No more crims or druggies. Just give them a miss. 🙂 Even if you were one too. Even if you understand. Don’t understand men. Let them pull their heads out of their butts and “understand” themselves. You aren’t there to be understanding. you’re there to be put on a pedestal and worshipped. 😉
well hello hawk thank you for your feed back such a gentleman. On your ex wifes behalf i apologize for her ways. I know all men aren’t jerks just the ones that i meet apparently. You seem like a nice person well you have my email feel free to head me up any time i just moved to a new city and town. dragongirl327@outlook.com so I’m usually home. Weird calling my sisters house home hmm guess it is though lol.
was being a tiny bit facetious Hawk. But it’s a good place to start. For those of us women who are there to accommodate and give it takes a LOT of learning to actually ask for anything at all. I’m learning that having asked for too little is just as bad as asking for too much.
My husband has been a narcotic addict for 5 years. He withdrew all of his IRA, made massive amounts of credit card cash advances, and used up my inheritance from my parents. We lost our house and are now separated. I’m better now that I’m away from him. I’m gently picking up the peices of my soul, while taking Celexa, Wellbutrin, and Xanax.
I’m sorry you’re going through so much right now, dragongirl. I agree with a lot of what Hawk said, although not all criminals are created equal. For example, someone who was arrested for possession of marijuana is probably not going to be as bad of a person as one who robbed a convenience store at gunpoint. But definitely pay attention to the *kind* of crime that was committed. Violent and/or predatory people don’t usually change, so be mindful of the kind of mistakes any man you meet in the future has made in his past.
That said, forget your pretentious mother and other family. The only people who care about their reputation to the point of shunning their own family are unworthy of having that family. I’m sorry but that’s how I feel. You are going through a rough time right now and your mother’s job is to help you heal – that’s ANY mother’s job with regard to their kids being in rough spots. It is never okay for a parent to shun their kid – unless their kid is Hitler or Donald Trump. Then shunning’s not only okay but expected. 🙂