After talking to some friends today and doing a little bit of research on my own I've come to realize I may be in some trouble if we can't work out our differences. If we can't work this stuff out and I'm not in the home with her and my child, she will have to file for child support if she wants to get any sort of assistance from the county or state. If she does that, then I'll have to get a second job to make ends meet on my own as well as afford the child support payments. By doing that I will be greatly reducing the time I will have to see my child. I honestly don't think she can make ends meet on her own without rental assistance, food stamps, medical assistance, etc. The only other option available is for me to sever my relation to my child and that is NOT an option I will even consider.I guess I just made the decision obvious. Hardly any time with my child is better than none at all. I'll be 51 when my child hits 18 and I won't have to pay anymore. I don't even really care about the money, it's the lack of time with my child and the damage all of this will cause. I've been praying nightly and occasionally during the day when my emotions and thoughts get out of control in case God does exist and He see's the situation as I do. I've been reading some studies on fatherhood.org about how detrimental it is to the child if the father isn't in the household – increased chance for criminal activity, obesity, behavior problems, increased chance for teen pregnancy and substance abuse, greater chance for child abuse and neglect from whatever partner she gets hooked up with. Even if she can get by without assistance and won't need to file for child support I'll still not be in the household helping raise my child. We need to fix this!
If anyone wants to take a look, here is the blog I was reading -http://blog.fatherhood.org/bid/190202/The-Father-Absence-Crisis-in-America-Infographic