I've gotten pushed around in my life, people have treated me badly, but I think this is maybe the one time that someone has gone to the extent of just outright bullying me. There are a lot of details and pretext, but basically, a girl in the clique I hang/hung out with has it out for me. I mean really out for me. I have never done anything to her. NOTHING, but she….she is very mean to me, outright, she constantly tries to twist anything about me to sound bad, she tries to exclude me from any event anyone is doing, she sends me intimidating text messages. Last night went to party after a week of avoiding people because of mean things she does/attacking me. She was drunk, again, came up, called me a slut, a whore, a bitch…all these things. It was upsetting even though it just made her look ridiculous. Her boyfriend was visiting, saw everything, apologized profuously to me for her behavior, all my friends say she is messed up, mean, out of line….but they still hang out with her…and the reason she picks on me is because she knows she can get away with it. People will tell her she is being mean, but they will still hang out with her, and that means I cannot be there because she will attack me. I know it sounds crazy to say but its true….I don't know what to do, I'm actually relatively scared of her because she has this….intense hatred for me and it comes out of nowhere. Everyone says its because she is jealous of me, because she is….a little overweight and not very attractive…but…I don't get any of it, and even though everyone says that…I don't know, "I'm pretty" and I shouldnt let her bother me….it wears on me and I don't know what to do or say.

How can people hang out with her when they see what she does to me? It is so ugly and cruel, and….I know that any kind of "change" in her behavior will only be to mask her cruelty from them and not to be kind to me, or even neutral. If she is there it makes it impossible for me to be there, and by supporting/tolerating her they allow her to banish me from their presence. I don't know what to do. I feel wronged. I don't know what to do to protect myself from this awful person who seems to hate me for no reason.

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  1. ancientgeekcrone 14 years ago

    Sounds like you need a new set of friends.  The situation as you describe is toxic.  If your crowd still hangs with her, it maybe because there is a lot of gossip milage to be gained from the situation.  It doesn't sound like there is a compassionate person in the group,  Do you really need to perpetuate that?

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