My (only) friend and I have known each other for a year and I was just starting to feel comfortable that she wouldn’t leave if I accidently said something wrong. We had been planning a Halloween event for over a month together (for me it had been much longer) and everything was set until the day before her mom said she didn’t want my mom coming, she only wanted it to be her family and me. I didn’t really want my mom coming either but she insisted. She has always been rather paranoid about everything, always envisioning the worst possible outcome in every situation and never trusting my judgement (despite saying she does). My friend and her mom were very aware of this fact. So I was rather surprised when my friend told me this, but she reassured me that she could probably get her mom to change her mind.
I reproached the topic with my mom about her not coming because my friend’s mom is not too comfortable with her there. So she exploded saying that there was no way in the world she would let me go without her coming, and now she would not come at all even if friend’s mom changed her mind because “it is way too awkward and uncomfortable now.” and “It’s not the natural progression of events” so I had to cancel.
My friend was furious understandably and asked if my mom doesn’t trust her family and why. So I told her the truth of what my mom thinks of her family, something mom told me to never share. My mom doesn’t know her parents well and based all her opinions of things she observed. She thinks she can know almost everything about a person just by observing for a short time and will not admit otherwise. I have a policy to not lie if I can help it to friends because I can choose them and I don’t want to be around more people I need to lie too. My friend had already told me what her family thought of mine (I was not surprised or angry in the slightest) and I thought she should know too.
Instead my friend got even madder and said she couldn’t be friends with someone who’s mom thinks such things about her family. I did not think mom’s thoughts were that bad compared to other things and I was not expecting such a reaction from her. She has sworn that we would be bff’s forever, and nothing I could say would change that, but now she refuses to talk to me and I’m furious with mom for not trusting my judgement enough to just let me go somewhere without her by my side for once in my life. So aita for telling my friend the truth of what my mom thought?
