So, I had written a blog entry this morning about a friendship I have. I submitted it, but ended up deleting it out of fear that my friendwould find out how I was feeling about our negative friendship. I am having a really hard time dealing with certain people who have treated me differently because I have OCD and anxiety. I know that from a third person's point of view that these friendships are not healthy, cause me anxiety, and have become a very negative force in my life. I have always been a sensitive person and always try to be nice to people. Sometimes even too nice since I tend to be a bit of a pushover. It's hard for me to understand howfriends cannot put themselves in your shoes. Cannot evenTRY to understand how someone is feeling and instead tear them down just to build themselves up. It's really discouraging to be around someone who treats you like a child and tries to "fix" you without reallyknowing whatOCD is and what it's like to deal with it on a daily basis. Who say that they careabout you, but won't takea few minutes to google what OCD is and justbecome a little more aware ofwhat your friend is dealing with?Aren't friends supposed to be there to love you, support you, and try to encouarge you as best as they can? It's really sad becauseI'm actually intimidated by this friend of mine.And I ask myself, howcan you be friends with someone who you're intimidated by? Isn't afriendship supposed to beopen and worryfree? Instead I worryabout what I say because of the fear of being made to feel like a lesser being because I have anxiety and OCD? That I'm 'Different.' That I'm over protective of my child. Thatother mother's do this, but you don't so you're over protective? since whenis caring for your childsuch a bad thing? I know that this is not healthy for me and the fact that my OCD makes me re-think and analyze over and over again details ofconversations and pull apartany hidden meaning makes me even more anxious and frustrated.

6 Comments
  1. RockyRose 12 years ago

    If they are a true friend they won’t try to “fix” you or change you….You are who you are, imperfections and all. No one’s perfect so why should your “friend” be trying to make you different from who you are Now.

    I’ve had OCD all my life so in general I have a good hold of keeping it from going beserk on me- and I have quite a few friends that have the same thing with over-analysing and questioning things.

     

    And before you give up on any friendship- I’ve had problems between me and my friend(s) before- it’s tough but in the end it all got worked out. (there were alot of factors contributing to all that went on over the summer- it’d take one blog post to explain it- or more)

     

    Sounds a bit like my mom with the over- protective part in some ways- even though when I was growing up- if she was being over-protective- I didn’t notice til I started getting older. 🙂

    On re-reading your post…it sounds like your friend is..careless :/

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  2. Hope3 12 years ago

    Thank you for your comments. I really appreciate you taking the time to read it and to respond. 🙂

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  3. rainingoctober 12 years ago

    It is definitely true that a real friend is going to attempt to understand your struggles and be there to see you through them. I also have come to find, in my own personal experience, that age seems to have a lot to do with it. In that, at younger ages, it was harder to find friends that would seriously be empathetic or there for you. So, there is some news about getting old and more mature! Hang in there, you aren't alone, and this is a good place to come for support. Don't let anyone else define you!

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  4. rainingoctober 12 years ago

    I just realized we are the same age, how funny! Also, I should add, I am pretty paranoid about what my friends are thinking of me and my actions, so maybe a little of what you perceive from your friends you are pushing from your own mind?

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  5. nintendor0ck3t 12 years ago

    I always feel like my best friends are secretly judging me too… 🙁

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  6. Hope3 12 years ago

    NintendoROCK3T- It's hard isn't it? I'm sorry that you feel that way too. 🙁

    Hopefully they will take the time to understand instead of judging.

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