My dad is a diabetic. in september he has his leg amputated from under the knee down. I have a step bro and step sister that barely called him until he went into the hospital. and then it was only because i let them know what was going on.
since the amputation Ive been there. everyday to make sure he has everything he needs. All the sudden the step brother decideds he needs to come over once a week to "help out". ITS A 24HR JOB!!!!! anyway he started his weekly visits and since im here along with my three children there is nothing he can do to "help" so he comes over for the weekly visit.
he stays for about an hr b4 he starts to check his watch and saying he really needs to get going. come on, give me a break. this is our dad. it is very obvious that he does this so he can feel better about himself and less guilty. then of course on those weekly visits i feel uncomfotable in my own home.
talk about psuedo-caring. then of course after all these months after ive found a new place for us (my kids and my dad) to relocate so that were more comfortable, i dont get a ty for taking care of dad or anything. they (he and his wife) barely say hi to me. but in their minds they r doing there good deed.
i know hes my fathers child and loves him 2 but sometimes i wish they would just stay away. ive done it this long and now that the worse part is over they all the suddent what to "do" something.