Recently I've noticed how ppl say they'll be there when in all actuality they aren't. Now I know stuff happens, the unexpected crops up and we, at times just don't wanna. BUT! When you say you will be there and when, don't I have a right to expect you to say what you mean and mean what you say?
I know what it's like to judge myself on my intensions yet, don't you think actions speak louder than ………………………. than not speaking at all? LOL!
And how much crap is too much when a friend, so called, continuously takes advantage of you, me. Borrowing this and that with such an intense expression on their face as though they're trying to force feed you the same shit they just apologized for? And of course wanting to believe them, hoping for the best I give them the benefit of the doubt ignoring that "belly-ometer," that is clenched so tight as if to pinch off that which simply won't come. Guess I just answered my own question, eh? What visual huh? LOL!
It's as if I want them to understand afraid of hurting their feelings when it's mine that are in need to reconcilaition.
I have a tendenancy to get self-righteous in tone that concerns me. Like, force feeding them an understanding of where I'm coming from, being the one that has been wronged, that has not only gone unnoticed, but also incapable of grasping, bastards. LOL! OH! And then they don't understand why the next time I won't comply when they themselves offered with an oathwith no follow through. Attempting to leave me with a sorta sense of guilt because "I don't understand." All because they got busy, or something better came up?! That's my favorite by the way. How they call you when things arrrrrre, well, aren't. BUT! When are going their way they're no where to be found.
Well, guess I'm done, thanx fer listening. Sometimes just gotta cut loose all liabilities no matter what.
But wait there's more, this just in; don't you think relationships, no matter the type, take sacrifice? Personal sacrifice that is. It's what I bring to the table. Anyone can be there when things are good, what about when they aren't. Oh, at 1st we all are there, "is there anythin I can do?" Type of thing, which is grrrreat! Don't get me wrong, (yeah, hate that too) We all wanna help, show we care but, when they smoke clears and the everyday stuff is bewildering and life resumes, can I still be there for the sake of being, to lean on as a friend not as some "white knight," but to just listen without "having" to solve whatever is going on. Yeah, yes I can. Can you?
RIGHT AWN! Dig the responses. It ain't easy being breezy but it beats having my feet planted in mud, let alone my mouth.
My apoligize, we do not know each other, but since this is a public blog, I feel the need to comment. People will only due to us, what we allow.Yes it would be very nice if, people say what they mean and mean what they say, but take a step back and realize how many times we might have fallen short of this same expectation we put on others. We have to learn not to be a victim but a victor. Expectations are a false illusions that we place on others.
Thank God for the for the beauty in life, like the fact that we woke up this morning and we have the chance to do it all over again, hopefully better then we did yesterday. Sending you much love!
XOXO Noemi
Neomi, so then it's safe to say your apology is disengenuous? You see, either you are in recovery of sorts or you you have been hurt repeatedly or both, just an observation mind you.
Either way all we have is our word. When we get down to brass tacks, after the cars, CD's, gold what have you, and the clothes on our backs all we have is each other. Our words lead the way. I am also aware trust begins there as well. Talk is cheap, exemplification is priceless. That is how at least I determine who I am, how I handle my experiences including exp's with those I have come know. My expectations are beased upon what is said. At no point have I stated nor elluded to being a victum. Disappointed? hurt? Frustrated? Yes. All I have is my word. Much of what I have come to see is the result of a "feel good," or "feel like it," type mentality.
So you say to me you will and don't that's okay with you? Well, all the best with that. All we have is our word. Words lead the way. In every religion and spiritual path, every relationship. Now whether or not I am willing to bet the farm is of my own judgement.
God himself stated; "ask and ye shall receive" do i not have a right to expect my prayers to be answered, regardless of the answer? And if I am to seek a life "willed" by God then wouldn't it be safe to say that I am of better service to put my word on the line? I think so.
The intent behind this blog was not so much a lesson as it was to relate, again, we are all we really have.
Moms know best.
Indeed yes Sam, and I have had enough scissors for the time being lol, thank you. But, I do agree. It is better to have trusted and lost than not to have trusted atal, or something, or like that. 🙂 All of which that has been said, I xan define trust in one four letter word………………….."RISK" Faith is rarely seen as is hope. Although they both can be acted upon with the highest of anticipation. Expectation is synomynous with hope by the way. LOL.
And hello Sam, I am Dwayne, nice to meet you as well as the rest of you.
I apoligized to you first and formost because my intentions were not to offend you in anyway. I am awaree of the fact that “earth people” can get a little too emotional :wacko: so in that matter my apolige is very much sincere to say the least. And yes, I am in recovery and bein hurt so your observation is correct. It is threw my personal experience that most often I speak. At the end of the day, I completely and whole heartedly agree with you that all we have is our word, but again it has been threw my experience that I could honsetly acknowledge that, not all is breed from that same clothes and that is ok too as that is what makes us individuals! For the record, those who say they will and they don’t are the type of people who no longer have room in my life. I can do bad by myself is my mottoÂÂ
Peace and blessing to uÂÂ
XKaliber; "investing," good word. That is exactly how I have described it as well. We don't know otherwise if such a chance isn't taken. But, I do not have to give myself away all at once which, I have done. Most of which for the wrong reasons, primarily my own aggenda, lol.
Discernment, I believe is the word that best describes such decisive times. There are times when I have been blind sided too. Holding out for the best was a bit a over played on my part, in one relation in particular. Sucks when it's family.
Upward and onward.
Noemi, all is well. My frustration wasn't due to anything nor anyone here, no need to apologize, but thank you.
I can theorize and idealize all day long yet, come night fall not a thing has been accomplished, lest of course a decision has been made.
I dig the rain as well, infact it's raining now. If for my cat "Babe", whose name could have been "up my ass", I'ld be sleeping through it, which is what I was looking forward to. Sometimes she just can't get close enough.
much love to you, my new friend, ur cat sounds just like my dog 🙂 matter of fact, they share the same name "Baby" 🙂
Thank you tecknique, agreed. Cleaning house isn't always a pleasant task.