Dear me in the future,
I know that there will be days in future when you will only remember the good memories with him.
Then, you will feel confused.
Yes, it was that bad. It was actually worse. The way he treated you was so bad that your mind is protecting you from remembering all it.
No, you couldn’t have fixed him or the relationship. People need to he accepted as they are and aren’t projects to be improved. Relationships shouldn’t be based on potential of another
Remember character reveals itself and when people reveal themselves the first time, always believe them.
You didn’t deserve what you experienced and it is something that he has to live with everyday. His actions, his character, and his choices. They are belong to him
You loved yourself to remove yourself from a situation / relationship that wasn’t good for you.
Trust me, future me, you did think it through.
You gave him many chances.
You were understanding.
You tried everything.
You were forgiving.
You did the right thing by picking you instead of trying to make him love you, cherish and value
It is okay to feel sentimental about the 10 percent good and feel compassion for a fellow human being who doesn’t isn’t good at being kind and having empathy
The fact that the situation hurt your heart means that you have heart. It is better than the alternative of being cruel and heartless
Remember, future me, “We are worth it!” (And we always have been.)
Fondly,
Me
This rings with so much truth it makes my heart sink. Mental well being and self worth are so very important, and seem to be in short supply at times. We all want to be loved, but being a nice person isn’t the same as being a doormat.
People can change if they want to, they can grow, mature, and switch values, but it shouldn’t be another person doing the change.
I wish you and anyone that reads this luck finding someone that makes you feel safe, loved and appreciated.
Thank you for the well wishes!
The letter was written regarding my wisdom from a previous relationship.
I am married and time has passed.
Memories have a way of popping up though.
I find reading my letter from time to time helpful. We all could sometimes doubt our worth and even second guess decisions.
If it helps one person today, it makes my past experience into learning experience, giving the pain a purpose.
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Hello friend
I hope you are doing well.
Hugs and loves
Thank you very much.
Ironically, I forgot that I had shared this letter and needed to read it again.
Funny, I did shed a few tears yesterday being hard on myself for not being fake to fix my former abuser and I was feeling like maybe I deserved the poor treatment.
Then, I noticed your comment and reread my note to myself!
Thank you! You made a difference!
Edit spell check out the word “fake” in there