So I realize that I don’t do emotions and social situations the same way that those around me do. I don’t really know why but I would love advice on how to be better at either one.
Emotions are a bit scary. I have always been able to understand my brother’s emotions cause he’s pretty straightforward. He really just has like a specific face for each emotion and I know which one is which. Other people are more confusing. For example, if my sister is acting a certain way I don’t know if she is mad, sad, annoyed, scared, or something else. This is also inconvenient in arguments because it can escalate pretty fast when I am unable to understand that the other person is upset. I also get really worried because I don’t know if someone is mad at me or just wants to have a friendly conversation. Honestly, emotions just confuse me.
I also don’t know how to respond to emotions. For example, if someone is crying I know they are sad but what do I do from there? I don’t want them to be sad but I don’t know what I can do to make them feel better. I mean I have zero ideas and I don’t want people to think I don’t care cause I genuinely do but I really have no idea what I should do to show that I care.
Thirdly, there are social situations. I don’t know how to communicate with people. I mean, I’m sixteen and I have gotten my communication skills from wikiHow. I have two icebreakers that are basically the same thing and classmates already make fun of me for not having any other conversation starters. I also don’t know how to end a conversation. Unless the other person ends the conversation, I might walk out of the room mid-sentence and not realize anything was wrong with that until I think about it later. Like how do people end conversations? I don’t know how to change a subject either so that is hard when I really want to talk about something.
Lastly, I don’t understand eye contact. Like when do I make eye contact? I literally just don’t and I feel like there are situations where I should but I really don’t know. It’s just really weird and uncomfortable and I don’t get why people do it. It’s not required or anything, right?
I dunno. I guess if anyone has any advice on understanding emotions or on how to talk to people or eye contact that would be great. Thank you for your time.