I've swept through the blogs (including my own, self written ones) and found that depression seems to be full of self indulgence … and it had me thinking … the more i thought about myself, my problems and issues … the more depressed i became.

I can't tell whether it's personal: that when I let things go that aren't worth worrying/bothering over … things are easier and smoother … i feel better …

However, the depression creates this self indulgence or self importance, in which I imagine a world completely evolving around me … and become depressed when I'm drawn back to reality in which it doesn't.

So what is the answer to this potentially long-term situation … we're being told to identify our problems and take them on i.e. Lost our jobs … work out why we did, work out our next steps and work out how to get bk on track … or lost a lover we're told to work out what we did wrong, how to improve etc etc

But what if we let it go?

As depressed, we automatically blame ourselves and try to change. We hope this will make us better in the long-term. But I feel it's this lack of self acceptance is what is making us depressed …

Why do we have to analyse everything we do?? Why can't we just move on as we are?? It's impossible to fit in everywhere and with everyone … and maybe that's whats wrong … We're trying to fit into the wrong group, and in doing so we're losing ourselves: So we go back to how WE can change, and what WE'RE doing wrong and before you know it, WE'VE slipped into self indulgence again.

So do we change who we are and hope to be accepted, even if your not the person you hoped to be?? Do we keep self-blaming and become the person we want to be and lose who we were at that start??

What is the way forward??

Strive to be the person we think we want to be?

Or strive to be comfortable in our own skin, by changing the situation around us?

Do we let the self indulgence go … and just move on? Or do we keep the self indulgence and hope someone will hear the cry for help?

3 Comments
  1. tekimthims 12 years ago

    a LITTLE SELF EXAMINATION IS GOOD. fINDING OUT WHO AND WHAT WE ARE IS GOOD START.  FEAR OF LOSING WHAT WE HAVE OR NOT GETTING WHAT WE WANT OR BEING FOUND WANTING IS OUR PROBLEM

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  2. thymeoperator 12 years ago

    i guess it's a matter of reaching a point where the past doesn't affect us anymore – where we can just look problems in the face and feel…bored? by them, like okay i've thought of this so much that i'm sick to death of thinking of it anymore, i'm not going to glean anything else from thinking about it, i've exhausted this subject…time to let it go and move on – and then suddenly there's this immense sense of freedom from it.

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  3. Sockdude 12 years ago

    thanks for the feedback everyone

     I actually agree with some self analysis actually now u've said it … i mean it's important (like ArtnGame215 says) to analyse things we know are wrong with us or actually are our own fault.

    But I think ShattteredCrystal (or Janet) has actually summed up this entire issue … it's just give and take equally

    I mean it's ok to ask for support (thats the whole point of this site) … but you need to help others equally

    I just get kind of sick reading the first sentence of every other blog being about themselves (and I too am guilty of this admittedly) or going into the chatroom and having people make big announcements of their problems and going against people for not listening … when theyve made no effort themselves to help others … I mean helping others makes you feel good too, so in actual fact maybe thats what we should be doing more of??

     Thanks again

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