My anxiety has been a lot better for the past year or so.  There have been a lot of changes in my life and surprising I haven\'t freaked out about them which is a great improvement!

But I\'ve realized that even though I have conquered a lot of my anxieties, I haven\'t really moved forward in my life.  We\'re (me and my mom) moving at the end of this month to be closer to my sister who is having her first baby this fall (yippee!).  It\'s tough moving to a new place and getting used to everything again – meeting new people and finding a new job.  A bit overwhelming.

But my biggest anxiety provoking thing right now is my mom.  I feel we have a very co-dependent relationship.  My dad died when I was 20 and I moved home from university to be closer to her.  I lived on my own for about 2 years, but when me and my then boyfriend broke up I moved back in with mom (this is when my anxiety was at its highest level).  She was really helpful and supportive throughout the ordeal.  But now 2 years later and I\'m still with her. 

It just seems so hard to move on – partly b/c of my unwillingness to move on with things, but also b/c my mom seems so attached. I don\'t want her to be lonely.  I know money is tight for her and it helps that I live with her and help with the bills.  I do jokingly say once in a while – you know I\'m not going to live with you forever.  And she laughs and says oh I know that.  But she still always talks about future plans in terms of "we".  Vacations, living arrangements – everything is always "we".

I know I need to move on and be an adult on my own – but how do I do this without breaking my mom\'s heart?