In any situation should one follow ones gut reaction or should one think more rationally?
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I don't know what to do, yesterday for the 4th day in a row, I got told that I had tried to change the person I loved, that they had put up with it because they devoted their life to me but in reality, they were fed up of not being able to be themselves. (The main complaint being that I am tactile and he isn't at all)
Basically he doesn't love me, he puts up with me and doesn't mind me and him being pretend partners but thats all, and then he constantly reminds me that actually we are close friends but thats all.
He actually accused me yesterday of waiting to be the grieving widow! I couldnt believe it! So I said 'Do you want me to leave?' and he said 'No'
Then when I said ' Well I think you should just phone me in future when you want to chat to someone' He told me not to be stupid, that his life was shit at the moment and to phone him today.
What should I do? I feel ugly and repulsive all the time. He said its not about being attractive, its just I'm too pink and fluffy and he isn't and also he doesn't want to put me as risk but last night the reason was back to the fact he doesn't want a relationship with me because we would only last a week and that Im not his type.
My inner instinct says 'end it' but then my other side says 'stick with it' – what shall I do? I love the guy completely but if in reality he just doesn't think that way about me, is it worth just throwing the towel in, I just can't be the friend because if he ever got a partner, I would be devastated. (which he knows and tells me that he doesn't want a partner so I should be happy with the fact he devotes his entire life to me)
What a mess!