This is not my first relationship to end like this I am wondering if this is the common trend.  That way there is no confromtation , bad feelings, or maybe explainging you were  cheating or what ever.  I have seen this trend growing of less and less accountability for people and I find it highly dispiciable and lowly.  I hope we are not raising our children to be like this.  I know that I am not raising my child like most I see these days.  My child must write a Thank you note for every gift recieved or call yes even a call.  A e-mail is not NOT acceptable.  My friends say oh no they do not have to do that, YES they do I am the parent and why are you over-riding a parent on good manners.  We say please and Thank you we give up our seat at the DR's office when there are too many patients she asks why us and I tell her because it is the right thing to do.  We go to Church we are considerate we wave to our neighbors we go to Wakds of people in our neighborhood even if we did not know them to let them know we can help if they need it.  You do not get an alowance at this house it is where you live I refuse to pay you for cleaning your living area and washing your clothing.  I realize it may not seem fair but one day you will understand.  We voluntee when we can and help out also.   Am I perfect heavens No.  I probably missed a hundred other lessons but I thought these seemed pretty important.  We do not lie, cheat or steal, we do not condone premarital sex, or not graduating H.S.  It is my rules or you may leave at anytime I will sign the papers to emancipate you but, think long and hard before you push me that far.  I am fair, considerate, and loving but a very hard mother it is not my job to be her friend just her parent for now, there will be a time when that changes but not now.  ME