Ok so it has been 4 years from the time i found out and now i am going through more feeling then i ever thought i would. My son is getting older and my neices are getting older so what do I tell them, how do I tell, when do I tell or do I tell them. I thought these questions would be easy to answer but I am at a loss.
I know at some point my son will have to know but should I wait till I am truely sick or when i can still go out and be the Mom I am today?
I don\’t know if any one answer is right or wrong, there are just so many choices.
So my other problem….
I now need to find a new job path, I am no longer comfortable working where I could cut myself to the point where I would need someone I don\’t know to help me. They say it shouldn\’t matter but I have had it with the way some people treat me when they find out due to having to tell them. I know I am not alone with this but sometimes it does feel like it. So when it comes down to it my life is mose stressful then ever before and i know i do bring alot of the stress upon myself. But it\’s nice to be able to get some of it out.
To all who read thank you.
Kisses and have a great day
Hello! I just wanted to give you my imput on the telling the kids issue. I have 3 children, ages 7, 8, and 13. I have been positive for almost 8 years and have chose not to tell ANYONE in my family. My parents don’t even know. I don’t hide my meds and im sure at least my oldest has walked past the computer and seen me on this site and has probably put some peices together. My theory is that they have enough to deal with in their little lives with school, activities, friends and all around just being "kids" . I think it would kind of rob them a little bit of their childhood. like it or not, they are going to worry about us. also, i’d hate for them to confide in a friend about their parents having something that they talk about in health class, only to get whispered about at school when they have a little spat with their friend. then, they might get teased or whatever over something that’s not their fault.
as for my parents not knowing: i have all intentions of outliving them, and hopefully i’ll never get a situation where they must be told because i get sick or whatever. also, parents will be parents… they will stress and worry about me and i just don’t want them to have anymore frustration in their lives either.