Hi all,
I have been suffering with anxiety for the last few months and can't shake it.. i believe that part of the problem is my current situation and this is where i wud love some oppinions.. I have a beautiful 1 year old very soon to be 2 year old.. she wasn't planned but we were very happy with the news.. when i was pregnant myself and my partner discussed marriage and family.. we decided that we would get engaged and married soon after the baby was born and also add to the family as i would love my kids close in age. I gave birth to our daughter on the 23rd of July 2009 on the 23rd of October 2010 my partner finally proposed, he had no ring and it seemed a bit spontaneous but i was delighted to finally get proposed to.. i taught things would work out the way we planned after all.. we went shopping for rings the following day but my partner not realising the price of these said we would have to leave it for another while so he could save for the ring.. i felt so dissapointed but at least i knew he wanted to marry me and we'd get the ring at christmas or valentines day the latest… christmas came and went and then valentines too came and went with no sign or talk of the proposal or buyin a ring.. i then decided to confront him and ask him why he didn't propose and what was happening to all our plans.. he told me he didn't want to propose to me or marry me and that he only proposed in october to keep me happy.. i was devasted.. i suddenly felt soo insecure and unloved and unsure of my life… all my hopes of marrage and having another baby were gone.. he then told me that he loved me and didn't want to leave me but wasn't ready to marry or have another baby.. i tried my best to accept this and taught i had but started getting sick and have been sick ever since.. I really don't know what to do and would luv your advise.. i feel like time is ticking away and my little girl is nearly 2 now and still no sister or brother.. i don't know can i just hang around waiting for him to decide when it suits him.. i feel so hurt, its even got me wondering if i love him anymore.. help!!!
I don\'t know if you are seeing a therapist or not, but I can say for me that mine has really helped. Also, she prescribed me some medication to help with the anxiety attacks. I am so sorry for what you are going through and I can relate to an extent. I was in a relationship myself for almost 1 1/2 years and was told he doesn\'t think we are a good fit. I hadn\'t had anxiety attacks for almost 2 years and now they are back and full force. I would definitely say that if you are not seeking help, that you should. It can really help.