I‘ve been in a relationship with another addict for the past four years and have struggled throughout it to develop a healthy situation for us to be in together.  About two years ago, this individual relapsed after 3 years of being clean.  Shortly after I relapsed as well.  Since then, I have been to treatment (inpatient) for three months, lived with him for a year and now I am in a house sponsored for women who are trying to make a better life for themselves.  The man who is 40 years old and has been to prison four times and is currently facing more time although he might get extended probation is using on and off and lying about it to everyone.  I’ve tried to be supporttive and talk some sense into him, but yesterday we went to a meeting.  Actually, I met him there.  And the topic was graditude.  I got up to use the restroom and we were sitting next to a female who has been around before and slept around with a range of men in the rooms.  Before I came around the guy i’ve been with for four years slept around in the same manner and I belive I was told he has slept with her, which I dont doubt.  During our relationship it didnt seem as though he was trying to be with anyone else or anything like that.  The female has just come back from a relapse.  I went to the bathroom, came out and he told me that he stole a iece of paper from me.. meanwhile we are still in the discussion group.  I asked him for what and he said so the female next to him could write down someones number. and every women there had already given them there numbers. So I said who?  and he said oh somebody down at that end.  I said so you didnt give her your number he said NO!  .. like I was crazy..  So then he tells me he gave her his ex whores number to her and I said well so you have that number available to give to her .. how?  He had no answer .  So after the groupp hug I grabed the piece of paper she supposedly wrote on or whaever and it was his name, phone number and email address…. I want to mention there was a time him and i were engaged to marry before the relapse happened.  So I tore up the paper and threw it into his head…  wtf.. I live by morals and principles.  Im actually trying to get better and here he is being completely dishonest about god knows what and then turning it around and telling me im crazy.. no wonder im so insecure and have to question everything he does and he wonders why… Later on, possibly after he had time to think about whaat to tell me.. he says he was giving her his number to fix up her condo so she could move..  okay, now how would that be healthy.. he already works full time and makes good money.  Plus he’s having issues with being clean and shes a freakin newcomer and a know whore.  Now I have no respect for her and will probably never show her any support.. thats ruined.. All this time its supposedly been me that was crazy for questioning..  Im tired of being sick.. and I know how much pain leaving him is going to cause me, but in te long run I wont have to (2nd step) going through one incident after the next.  Im a pretty, young, 29 year old female with a beautiful daughter and I even have a bachelors degree..  I dont get it.. no wonder Im afraid of being hurt and humiliated.. because its happening!!!!  Can anybody relate or ….????  Here I am again trying to be well and I have someone who says he’s supportive of me bringing me to my knees daily!  I am just so tired of going through tis not just with him but the last two long term relationships I was in the men were decieving as well.. Is there anybody out there who wants to be with a good hearted beautiful young lady?