Cracks allow light to come in. When one door closes five more doors open. Don’t keep yourself blind to the opportunities by looking at the door that is already closed. That part of your life is over and you need to look at what else is waiting for you to accomplish. You don’t want to concentrate on that closed door that you miss the door that is open for you. Sometimes we can take everything that is good in the world for granted. It takes hardships for us to be able to really appreciate those good things that we have in our lives. Life is not supposed to be easy and thats what makes it so interesting.
Respect & honor your feelings. Don’t fight them. You are human. All emotions are what comes with being human. Feeling is a beautiful thing. Let them out & let them flow. You will feel better in the end once you let it all out. If you wait too long to let your feelings out or be known, it will only put you in a deep depression later or make you act out in a way you don’t like to see yourself act. Feeling what ever is it for you might be scary to feel, but that is how you process what is going on in your life & you grow stronger from there.
Keep your “why” in life. Often when you go through something that is hard, it helps to remember why you are doing what you are doing right now. Usually, whatever situation you are in will shine a light on your “why.” Don’t forget what it is you want from life. My favorite quote to remember in times like this is, “Dance like no one is watching, love like you’ve never been hurt; sing like no one is listening, and live like it’s heaven on earth.” Stick to your values that give you a sense of purpose, no matter how big or how small. These hard times that you go through actually give you more experience to relate to other people, so they really give you more sense of purpose.
Remember all the things that exist beyond your brokenness. Sometimes something simple like the sun rays hitting the walls can bring you comfort. Be thankful that you still get to breath in fresh air. Whats your favorite thing to look at in this beautiful world? Maybe it’s the clouds that float by. Take some time to just stare at the sky. Or maybe it’s the way the trees look. Whatever it is that makes you think “wow, the world is a beautiful place” bring yourself there. This doesn’t downgrade the feelings that you are having. Everyone is entitled to their own feelings, but when you remember all the wonderful things around you, the world doesn’t seem like such a dark place anymore.
Friends & family are there for support. You might feel like you don’t want to burden your friends or family with what you are going through, but they may be more willing to help you through those times than you think. If you surround yourself with good whole hearted people, they will change your vibe. The people you hold close want to see you strive in life. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. I know I have said this before, but I want to say it again. Just because you are struggling doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. Remember, you are not a burden! You are just as important as the next person.
Focus on the things that bring you joy. Sometimes we find it hard to do the things that once brought us joy. We might want to just concentrate on absolutely nothing. When we focus on what brings us joy we will maximize what brings us happiness. The more you do this, the more you will find that smile you are looking for. You are deserving of happiness. This is your life so live it to the fullest! You’ll be glad you did in the end & find gratitude, the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for & to return kindness. Even something as simple as catching up with a friend you haven’t talked to in a while or getting your favorite cup of coffee will help to light up your heart instead of mulling over your turmoil.
Don’t identify so much with your feelings. You are not a slave to your feelings. They are allowed to come & go as they please. Remember that you are so much more than what your emotions are. Concentrate more on your organization & your productivity. Meet your appropriate edge. You can also take a few steps to help you with these emotions mindfully. Turn towards your emotions with acceptance. Identify & label your emotions. Realize the impermanence of your emotions. Even if the emotion is overwhelming, remember it will pass. Inquire & investigate. Ask yourself “what triggered me? Why do I feel this way?” Let go of the need to control your emotions by being open to the outcome of your emotions & what unfolds.
Life is a series of ups & downs. This is only temporary. Even life itself is short. We need to enjoy it while it lasts. Do you want to spend most of your days lost in your brokenness or enjoy this life while it lasts? Take your brokenness & learn from it. You will come out of this wiser. Use it to encourage yourself & others. Your blessings are just on the other side of this. Suffering is one of life greatest teachers. No matter what you do, keep going. It’ll all be worth it in the end. “Don’t let pain define you, let it refine you,” Tim Fargo. Life is short, time is fast, no replay, no rewind, so enjoy every moment as it comes. Enjoy the moment. Appreciate what you have today, not what you might get tomorrow. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect to enjoy your life. Make peace with your past so it doesn’t spoil your present. What other think of you is none of your business. Time heals almost everything, give it time, some time. No one is the reason of your happiness except you yourself. Don’t compare your life with others, you have no idea what their journey is all about. Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know all the answers. Lastly, smile, you don’t own all the problems in the world.
