I have to write a blog because I don't know who to turn to. I would like some advice on how to deal with my sister with whom I live with. I wish I could move out but I don't have the financial means to do so.
My sister is addicted to pain killers as well as attention. She has Borderline Personality Disorder and depression. She is also a hypochondriac. Two-Three times a week shedrives off to either A) say she is suicidal, or B) complain about some physical ailment in which she has the fire department come out to rescue her. She calls a crisis line, and she says she's going to kill herself, and they call police. Physically, she does have a couple of health problems, but she has feigned so many illnesses just to get attention. She doesn't care what kind of attention, whether it's negative or positive. When she arrives at the emergency room, she thinks of some reason to get morphine, and if she doesn't get it, she runs off saying that she may as well kill herself. When this happens, police are knocking at the door of my house, sometimes late at night and wakingme up. The next day or maybe a few days later, she comeshome and because she comes off the morphine, she takes it out on the only other personin the house, me. A lot of times, she has driven off and I didn't know if she was alive or dead. I have filed missing persons reports, too.
She has been to treatment centers four times to help her deal with her addiction, though all four kicked her out due to her wanting to go to the E.R. for one reason or another. She is a pathological liar; I have caught her lying to me so many times. She is very self centered,and for years, she was telling myolder sister awful things about me that simply were not true, and for 12 years, my older sister and I would only fight and I could never understand whyshe hated me.When my younger sister went to visit my older sister, my older sister got a bit of reality as to how she behaves. Now my older sister and I talk.
Every time my sister leaves the house, I am forced to take on all responsibilites. We have four dogs, and it's hard to keep the house clean, the grass mowed, the mail picked up, sweeping, mopping, and everything else that makes this house livable. I also maintain it, painting, fixing walls, etc.
I feel like I am on the brink because all my sister and I do is argue, and it's getting more volatile on her part. Does anyone have a similar problem? Or, am I totally alone in this? I would like to receive any advice on how to deal with this, or anything for that matter. I'm teetering on the edge but I don't know how long I can hang on.
Have you thought about having your sister committed for a period of time to help her get off the pain meds and get some therapy to possibly help with her other problems? My son was addicted to pain meds, lied, etc and it was awful living with him but he ended up in jail for 3 months and had to go cold turkey and now he's been clean for almost a year and things are nice with him but before he went to jail I considered having him committed and was going to have his sisters help me it was horrible, worse than horrible and I didn't know how to help him other than that.
I don't know what else to say except try and keep your chin up and talk to your older sister and maybe between the two of you there might be something you can both do. I know the lying and all comes from the drugs but she needs help sweetheart…..
Good luck…
Snowdreamer, thank you very much for responding to my blog. I have tried getting her committed, and within a few days, she is out of the hospital. She continues to say that I am the problem, but every time she comes home, she takes everything out on me because she is coming down off the painkillers. My sister is facing charges, too, and I hope that if she is sent to jail, she will not only get clean, but realize her life is passing by at a lightning fast speed. Congratulations about your son; your story gives me hope for her future as well as mine. Again, thank you for your thoughtful response, and I hope your son continues on the right path.