Failure can be that frightening word we all dread to hear. I myself have failed at many things in my life. Whether it be a test, a job interview, or just feeling like a general failure because I wasn’t where I wanted to be in life. I used to get down on myself when I failed, it would cause me to be depressed and feel unworthy. This led me not wanting to try new things because I was afraid to fail. Finally, I made a conscience decision one day that I wasnt going to let “failure” dictate how I felt in certain situations. One day I was going to a job interview for a job I really wanted. On the drive there, my mind started wandering, thinking of “what if I blow this interview”. I didn’t want to fail again. It was at that moment, I decided that no matter what happens in this interview, I am going to take this experience and learn from it. From that point in my life, anytime I failed, or thought about failure, I looked it it from a different perspective. I thought of failure as a growing experience. It sounds kind of silly, but now I invite failure into my life, because the times I have failed, have been the times I have learned the most about myself and have had the most personal growth.
This is such a good way to look at it! It’s true, I always think of failure as a bad thing but maybe it is a learning experience. I am my own worst enemy and I always beat myself up about things, I hope that I can start looking at things in a more positive way.
Yes it is definitely easy to beat yourself up when it comes to failure. Once you change your outlook on it, it can really be life changing. It will open up many new doors you thought wouldn’t even be an option.
I can relate to this a lot! Lately I’ve been feeling like a failure. Just feeling like I failed at life because I’m not where I want to be yet and it seems like its taking forever. My career took forever to launch because failed exams etc and I feel like that’s putting my personal life on hold. But now from reading this I’m hoping that I can look at failure from a different perspective as well.
It is amazing what can happen when you look at it from a different perspective. It isnt easy in the beginning, but once you keep reminding yourself, it becomes more and more natural!