Well I’m frustrated cause Im kinda fed up of my parents trying to understand when they just don’t. I mean sure, im thankful they try to. Yeah i know they are trying to help. But they dont. They just seem to make it worse. Then they get mad cause they dont understand why I cant just stop. They pull faces at me like they think im being ridiculous. Well they DO think thats what im being. Ridiculous. They have said so,’do know how ridiculous you are being’. It really winds me up and I want them to stop it but they won’t. They think they can make me stop but they can’t. Its just making me more and more anxious, stressed and frustrated. I don’t know what to do. I wish they would just stop it. I hate how they talk about it too. So I dont talk much about it to them anymore. And whenever I have a conversation with my mum, she always links it or ends it with something about OCD. Argh. It is so annoying. I just want to get on with my life. Im a teenager, I want to have fun and not worry. I mean dont get me wrong, I don’t want to be like everyone else, thers no such thing as normal, but I do wanna be able to relax, chill, chillax and have fun, you know?? Im going CBT sessions, does that not show them Im trying to stop? I already get homework from that and then they are like ‘ well shouldnt you be trying to stop this and that …..’ It winds me up so much I just wanna shout and scream. I am getting so fed up, they just make it harder and worse. I know I have written loads but it seems almost helpful to let it out… Please leave comments, what should I do? And please dont just say ‘talk to them’. I have tried that again and again. But my parents arent really the listening type. I think they want be to be perfect, they always moan and criticise. It really gets to me. I have a little sister and she’s always ‘good’ apparently and never does anything wrong. But please, she winds me up on purpose, shes knows about my OCD and she makes it hard too. Seriously though I am getting sick of it, it would be so much easier if they just left me alone, they moan all the time. It just makes it so much harder. I dont know what to do. Also, and this isnt OCD. I am 14 (nearly 15), I need privacy, my own peace time (which would help with my OCD), but they never ever leave me alone…
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Hi there, maybe try having whoever does your CBT sessions talk to your parents. That might make them listen better! You explained yourself very well in your blog. I’m a mom & although I don’t have a child as old as you I know we can be pretty dense sometimes;) As parents we feel like we should be able to "fix" it for you. Don’t stop articulating your feelings, its good your doing that!
Naomi~
I can really relate to what you’re saying–it took me years to figure out how to effectively communicate with my parents and didn’t figure it out til last year (I’m 20). I too felt like when I talked, they didn’t listen, they didn’t know how to help, etc. etc. What I found helpful was to have them hear it from a professional. So maybe talk with your therapist and ask her if she could talk with your parents–or even have them come into the session at the end, so that she could talk to your parents, or mediate a discussion between you and them, about what helps, what doesn’t, what to do, what not to do, etc. They are most likely going to listen to your therapist! What do you think about that? Hang in there. <3
I know how you feel. It’s generally around the teen years that parents don’t understand anything at all. I still don’t know how to talk to my parents (but then again, I’m only 17), I’ve tried before, but it hasn’t really worked. So I just don’t anymore. But I think I should… But anyway, so if your parents can’t listen, maybe they can take it in through written form? Write them a letter telling them just how you feel about everything. You can read it out loud/give it to them to look over. Give them examples that they can understand in relation to how you feel. And maybe talk to your therapist about ways you can make it work. I dunno if I helped… But good luck!
I understand alot of what your talking about. Well meaning friends and family think that if I would try harder it will just end. The part that I don’t get is these people have simpathy for alcoholics not us with ocd. To me I think we deserve a bigger understanding. I did not go out of my way to find a product and consume it regularly to maintain my disorder as an alcoholic does. I just have it, have always had it and it sucks. A third party who understands ocd should talk to you and your parents. A counseler or minister who has actual knowledge of ocd and can explain that it is a chemical change in your body. It isn’t something you are doing for attention. While there are things you can learn in order to control it sometimes it will not go away. My goal is to have less focus on the ocd in my life mabye your counselor could let them know some things you are working on and help explain it to them. Some people really have to try harder than others to get it, don’t give up find a new path.
good luck
I understand alot of what your talking about. Well meaning friends and family think that if I would try harder it will just end. The part that I don’t get is these people have simpathy for alcoholics not us with ocd. To me I think we deserve a bigger understanding. I did not go out of my way to find a product and consume it regularly to maintain my disorder as an alcoholic does. I just have it, have always had it and it sucks. A third party who understands ocd should talk to you and your parents. A counseler or minister who has actual knowledge of ocd and can explain that it is a chemical change in your body. It isn’t something you are doing for attention. While there are things you can learn in order to control it sometimes it will not go away. My goal is to have less focus on the ocd in my life mabye your counselor could let them know some things you are working on and help explain it to them. Some people really have to try harder than others to get it, don’t give up find a new path.
good luck