I am truly disturbed by his behavior at home. He is always telling me off at home. Every details of households whenever he feels is not right, he will just blurred out at me.
Things he will say out:-
1. "Please do not put the knife at this place"(Repetitive everytime) It might be different things but it's always telling me things at home to be placed according to his command/desires.
2. He is always having fright whenever I came from behind him. He will jump in fright and then he will show his fist like waiting to throw punches.
3. He is always sleeping. He sleeps and wakes up rather late in the morning.He often wakes up in the noon.
4. He nags alot and he complaint almost everything especially cleanliness at home. And when he complaints, he often YELLS.
5.The truth is, he never sweeps/vacuum and even clean the house. Almost, whenever I need him to contribute his effort at home, it's always arguement first, work later.
5. Whenever I need help at home, when I called him, it is always, " Please wait…." and then, I ended up doing the housework all by myself.
6. Oh yeah. This is the worse part. We have a parking lot for 2 cars. His and mine. If I parked my car first, whenever his car came in later, he will get my car key out and then reversed my car and leave it more space for his car to park at the lot. There was a time, when he reversed his car, he ended up breaking his side mirror. (which I am happy that it happened to him)
7. He calls me fat and swear at me whenever we have arguments. He got louder everytime I told him off.
8. He doesn't have any friends. Most of his friends complaint about him and they found him rather pretentious. (e.g. He have a smiling face). New people will find him rather nice at few meetings, but they all got bored after the few, coz he doesn't talk with substance. They are always boring things he talked about)
9. Reserved. He likes to be alone and can spend a long hours in the room.
10. He doesn't have family who is close to him. His father and siblings doesn't talk to him. His mother hate and always YELL at him and that is the reason he moved out .
11. He is not productive with work and have very low objective in life. I have to always remind him to spend time building his career. It's always be me telling him and then to a point, I give up now.
12. He loves playing his badminton game. Too often, he only wakes up playing badminton 3 times a week and only live for his badminton game.
Can you imagine all these I'd been through? I am at my breaking point. Either he is diagnosed with OCD and get help, or I am moving on with my life without him.
I need lots of you guys to comment on my humble blog. I need to get it straight to him that he is OCD sufferer (IF) OR I am moving out .
So sorry for what you are going through when i first started reading your blog i was thinking yes this could be ocd but as i read on i was not sure to let you understand why i live at home with my parents when my ocd started it was all about contamination the house had to be clean and done in a certain order and the only way that could be done was to do it myself so i took over everything all the cleaning in the house and was also working no one could tidy or clean anything in the house right in my eyes it was never done correctly or cleaned properly if anyone did clean anything i would have to go over it again and so on also the constant thoughts of contamination and the thoughts of anyone getting ill would be all my fault. I think it would be better to try and get him to see someone to find out for definate before making any decisions about the future. Good luck.
Sounds like it.
Most of you here commented (except for one) that he is not OCD. Maybe from a selfish family upbringing, I don't know.. but deep in my heart, I just feel there are people who are born nature to be selfish and it's hard for them to change.
I am his first and so far, he haven't been through break-ups and often in my mind, I really want him to go through the break-ups.
This is a 10 years relationship and it all started from me giving him a chance when he courted me. Frankly, I made mistakes for giving this man a chance for a relationship and ended up with me experiencing emotional abusive relationship from him.
We are not married. I pause the plan to get married to him because I know him too well.
Moving on is also a big step for me at my current age.
I just came out of the kitchen. Looking at the cooker pot which he soaked with water for nearly 4 days unwashed. Also, this morning, another smaller pot used and left it over the sink soaking with water. (I likes to soak utensils,bowls, cups etc with water) Crazy isnt it??
I really have enough of cleaning it for him. I'd been a busy "mother" as far as I could remembered. Unhappy one and he make me worn out.
I am going away for vacation to Vietnam with a girlfriend. And we are going away on next January and I want to see how difference are those vacations. (I have told him to cancel the air-ticket as I seriously do not intend to have any holiday plans with him anymore. (I am giving him one final chance)
Since everyone says he isnt OCD, what could it be??
Please drop by again, thanks a million.
Sorry for the wrong spelling "He likes…"