Hey Dani, This is Iris, I am a transgender girl amab, who thinks she is a mix of Demi and Pan… I am not a professional in this subject, but my first idea is to read some subject specific definitions in a Queer or LGBTIAP+ groups glossary of subjects. From what I understand and/or read:
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A Pansexual person is: Characterized by sexual or romantic attraction that is not limited to people of a particular gender. (Pansexual people are attracted to all kinds of people, regardless of their gender, sex or presentation.)
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If, from a different perspective, you need an emotional connection –before– romantic interest starts you might be Demisexual: a person who feels sexual attraction towards another person only –after– establishing an emotional bond with that person.
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Amanda Finn (who I do not personally know) describes them in this way, “Demisexuals typically don’t do one-night stands or have flings. We build our physical relationships from pieces of our emotional ones.””
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I am not sure if understanding these terms will help you. If you are like me, I lean in the Demisexual direction. I absolutely need an emotional connection –before– any desire for intimacy begins! Regardless of how they present themselves or whom they are attracted to. This is not to say that I find Men, Women, or a mix of either equally desirable. I need to feel enough attraction to them to initiate steps toward intimacy. I start to feel the pangs of love once I start to gain an understanding of where their heart is guiding them…
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I hope knowing these terms will help you in your quest to explain or find yourself. This is a journey that I have barely started.
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I hope this helps you find someone to love. Hugs – Iris