You know what I’ve come to despise? How some men…or maybe just the men that I know…are in denial over the way women feel about their bodies and why.
Now, I’m not saying that all men are solely to blame. I’m just saying that how some of them behave doesn’t help and frankly, I’m tired of those same guys trying to convince me that everything is all in my head or something someone else caused and that they have no influence over it whatsoever.
I feel insecure. I want to lose about 50 pounds even though my boyfriend has never asked me to. But there is no denying that he’s found thin women attractive, even downright skinny ones, females that barely even have curves worth mentioning. The same applies to a friend of mine and other random guys I’ve heard talking online and off.
One even poked fun at some actress, a heavy girl, calling her a pig and then going nuts over her thin costar. A month or so later, I ask about his wife and he says that she feels uncomfortable with him seeing her naked and comments that "women are too hard on themselves". Uh…wtf?
Another guy keeps trying to convince me that models and actresses and singers are thin and girly and sexy simply because gay men have made it mandatory, they’re responsible for it. Or maybe he was saying that they’re the ones into that look, who the hell knows, I just know that somehow gay men are involved and apparently no real straight guy would be into that look.
Really, if you’re going to get all revved up over a skinny girl, at least have the guts to admit it. It’s not like saying they’re hot and then backtracking tricks me into thinking you never went there in the first place or that I misunderstood. It’s insulting to my intelligence and is really getting on my nerves.