March 20th, 2020…(pause). That was the day that I came out to my family and that same night was absolutely horrible and the overall situation that same night felt like my worst nightmare. I am currently a new member of the LGBTQ+ Community and found out that I am gay. I found out who I am when the time hit precisely on 12:00 AM on March 11th, 2o20. That was my birthday and there was a constant internal battle of figuring out who I am. I eventually processed the many situations that took place and after much thinking and processing, I found out that I am gay. The night I told my family, I had horrible reactions to the entirety of the conversation. Long story short, they know and it’s been a long time since then. My mother has become more optimistic about it. My sister and my dad both are strong religious believers. My brother, I don’t rightly know. About a summer ago, I’ve had frequent conversations about my sexuality with my mother and her curiosity was interested. I soon explained the steps to me finding out about who I am. Now, this past September of 2020, I went to the ER to find out about the excruciating pain in my back. I eventually found out I soon then was diagnosed a diabetic. I took the long moments where no one was in the hospital room to tell my mom how I wanted to live my life. Soon after, my mother and father and I found common ground and things have been okay. The problem is, I have been hiding my personality around my family, but they know. I keep hiding it because I feel like I’m forcing them to accept me or I’m too afraid to mention it because of the certain living conditions that make me feel emotionally uncomfortable. I honestly have no idea what to do.
My Complicated Coming Out Story and the Aftermath
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hi! i just wanted to say that you’re not alone in this. coming out is hard, and it’s even worse when you gather all the courage to tell someone and then they don’t react in the best way. it’s hits hardest when it’s your parents. it sounds like you and your mom have a pretty good relationship though, that’s great! when i came out to my family, it was the other way around. my dad is supportive, not so much my mom. despite everyone’s opinions, you are you! nobody can change how you feel, who you love, what you like. you’re valid no matter what! hopefully someday your dad comes around, maybe once he realizes that this is really what makes you happy. i wish you all the luck!
Thank you for the good wishes! I have been trying to balance the relationship, but I hope all is well on your end as well! You seem really sweet and I thank you again for the good graces!