Background…Been married for 7 years to a selfless and very kind man. He did tell me he had some mental health issues before we married. Many of these issues were dismissed because of the stress he was under in an unhealthy marriage prior to us. There were minor OCD symtoms he displayed over the years (calling from work several times a day, checking doors/locks/lights, constantly following me around the house, constantly trying to get me attention if I am trying to relax and read or watch TV, never finishing tasks, etc) but nothing that wasn't manageable for us. About a year ago, I started to notice that he was becoming obsessed with sex. We already had sex 4-6x a week (that I enjoyed for a while too). I can barely get into bed before he is already asking for it. Then the more sex we had, the worse he got obessed with it…and wanting more of it…thinking about it all day etc. I used to joke and say nothing was ever enough..but how little did I know that this was TRUE! He gets really upset with himself when he turns to or even thinks to turn to porn. I am completely ok with using porn, but he isn't due to religious beliefs. If he thinks about looking it up on his phone, he will obseesed about it and whether he does it or not, it will completely ruin his day. The only time we argue is when he wont equally do his part problem solving an issue out with me. He has always let me have the upper hand on decisions with financials and parenting, but recently I have asked him to help/be more involved and he just can't do it. So, a couple weeks ago, he got back on medication and started therapy for OCD. I really thought this would help but it has only worsened everything OCD-wise. His mood is depressing and all he can talk about is having OCD and not actually figuring out what he can do to help himself. His therapist said that I may be giving into any/all attempts of his needs in reassurance (the calls all day, answering him when I am relaxing, sex daily, solving his problems, etc). So, until I meet with the therapist too…is there ANYONE that has gone through this (OCD-Spouse or OCD-sufferer) that could give me some tips on dealing with his need for reassurance and sexual obsessions? Or why this is worse after seeking help than before? Am I even supposed to have sex with him? or does that give in too? 🙁 Gosh…I'm in tears (and I have only ever cried 3 times in frustration about our relationship!).</p>
<p>To throw another curve ball out there..he has a teenage son whom we have been trying to help with his ADD issues. BOTH MY HUSBAND AND HIM ARE IDDENTICAL in every way. My step-son just confided in me about his worries about the end of the world (in which he talks to the family about a couple times a week! How could I NOT see he was suffering too?), worries about death, worrying if a sibling is going to die when they drive away and can't sleep till their home ETC…So, now we have an appointment for him too. But if my husband is ANY indication on how medication and therapy work…I don't know if I can handle it with out a mental break down.
Please help me :/ Thank you!