I had wrote two (2) blogs about this obsession I was going through with a man, who I was gettig too attached to, without even knowing him. I had thought it would get me really bad, but I can now say that although I still do care, the obsession is now gone. I don't have this "overwhelming" feeling anymore. I am chatting with him on FB, but very little. We share comments and the such. I have really prayed to God about this and He has answered me in taking the irritation of the obsession away. Then He just took the obsession away right after that. It took almost 2 weeks, but I am much more stable now. Lately, I hav ehad a lot of dreams with my ex-husband in them. That is an issue I have to address sooner or later. We have been friends, talking almost 8 years in a row, since 2003, more or less. Before that, we had no contact. We divorced in 1988 and we did not have any contact until 2001, when we were hit with the Twin Towers thing, here in NY. He got worried that I may have been killed and he called my brother's house. I was there at the time and got to talk to him and told him no, that I wasn't killed, but was very much in disturbed because I was there when the planes hit the building, about 50 blocks away, but still was very affected by it. He was glad that I was okay, and that's when we talked for the first time since our divorce. We then started up again about two years later, calling each other regularly. Recently, he became possessive about me and was also trashing about our marriage and I told him to go to hell and that I did not want to talk to him for a while, a long while. It's been months since that happened and I developed a return of the PTSD that was our marriage and got very sick. I changed my telephone number and have had some peace since. Now I am working with my therapist to get rid of the return of the PTSD and to stabilize my MDD. I have sent him 2 letters since, explaining to him why I did what I did, about changing my telephone number and staying away from him for now. It gives him taime to think about all the bull he has been giving me about our marriage,; a topic I told him I did not want to talk about. It's past and I wanted to have conversations about things now, not between us, but in general. I will never go back with him. I have been single since 1997, when I broke up with a man I lived with and we were going to get married. Then I found out he was bi-sexual and that caused me to break up with him and end it all. ~ Let me not digress. My ex-husband is a very good and funny man, NOW. He was an abusive alcoholic when we were married. I was going to Al-Anon and other support groups back then, and then when the domestic violence got real bad, I had to go to a shelter. I knew then that it was over. I divorced him and moved back into our penthouse and he had to leave. I stayed there 6 months getting my life together and then we sold it and I moved into an apartment and the rest is history. I always worked, except for the 9 months I was pregnant only to give birth to a dead baby. I went back to work and lived my life as I wanted to, at peace, alone with my pet dog. I made new friends and my life , with medication and therapy, improved quite a bit. So, how was I going to let him tear all that down and bring me back to those awful years? NO WAY… I have no intention of speaking with him againa ny time soon. I think he will get my message and maybe then I may call him. I am older, my depression is stable, but I am getting physically sick as I age, so I need my peace. ~ ANYHOO… I wanted to blog my getting over the obsession that was gripping me for a while there. Now, I just chat a bit when he sends a message and that's it. I don't feel theneed to go see him, follow him or do anything that would be improper. I am a lady, first, and a woman after that. So, I will continue my blogs as I progress and let you know what's going on. I love this blog idea. It rids me me of a lot of my anxiety and I love to write (have you guessed?) so, I will be back again. Happy Blogging to all who read this and blog too.