Toxic positivity or sometimes positive toxicity is a dysfunctional approach to emotional management that happens when people do not fully acknowledge negative emotions, particularly anger and sadness. Source Wikipedia
Toxic positivity, at first glance, may not seem unhealthy. However, this form of communication can be harmful as it can cause shame, feelings of guilt, and the prevention of human emotional growth. It is a form of gaslighting. Gaslighting is defined as “a technique that undermines your entire perception of reality.
Often, toxic positivity is a trait exhibited by the person who is in a relationship with a narcissist; the belief that a positive mindset is the best way to deal with problems, even when they are being gaslighted or lied to.
5 Ways You Can Respond to ‘Toxic Positivity’
“Recognizing I’m sad or frustrated helps me process my feelings.” …
“All of our feelings are OK to feel.” …
“My sadness and anger won’t last forever because all emotions are temporary.” …
“Grieving the things I’ve lost helps me work toward a more fulfilling life.”
Remember that your feelings are always valid, even if no one else or someone else doesn’t understand how you might feel.
It is powerful when you accept that you don’t have to explain your feelings to a person who uses toxic positivity / gaslighting as a weapon.
Remember what Dr. Ramoni says to do when dealing with this tactic : do not defend yourself, explain, or personalize their words!
You are valid good enough human being. You are and were always good enough!
It is your job to protect yourself from toxic positivity and gaslighting! It is okay to put yourself first to get out of these horrible conversations and situations! It is a form of emotional abuse and isn’t good for you!