Something has been nagging on my mind for a while now. Iv been seeiing my counsellor for about 6+ months, shes a lovely woman – really kind, understanding, caring and compassionate and she has been a great help to me. In fact i dontknow what i would have done without her. I see her once a week for an hour (which never quite seems long enough) and sometimes i go in and im on top of the world, sometims i am upset, depressed, angry or i can be completley happy and feel rreally good about myself and no matter what way i feel she welcomes me. By now she knows me well enough to know if im not in a great mood , dont want to talk or dont know what to be talking about and she will just say'we dont even have to talk, this is your time , if you want you can just look out the window and think.
I think this is really nice of her and it sums up her whole approach, she is very laid back and easy going, she doesnt push me to talk and lets me go at my own pace and makes me feel really comfortable so in turn i end up talking and talking and talking and saying things i wouldnt even realise were on my mind. Its as if the words just come rolling out…and dont stop!
Sometimes i wonder is she no suppossed to give me more feedback? its not as if she doesnt talk at all because she does, she wil ask some questions and make comments but she doesnt really give me alot of feed back. I would like her to tell me what she thinks of me? not in a personal way but about my problems. Also how she thinks i am doing, what would be best for me, etc. Also i must mention here that she does say things like i seem happy, or i am looking well but i would like her to go deeper, about how she feels i am progressing, the changes she has seen in me from when we first met up to now.
I am not even sure why i want these things, i guess i feel a bit like i go to her every week and alot has happend in the last 6 + months and i would just like her professional opinions on my circumstances and our sessions, even just once in a while. Its not that i doint feel i get enough out of our sessions , because i do. I get alot in fact, when i see her and we talk properly, and i go home i think for a long time and resolve issues wiht myself, answer un answered questions to myself,i become stronger every time i see her and i deal with some more of my past or my feelinsg or circumstances. Al these are great tings and i wouldnt have alot of them wassnt for her.
I am not even sure if what i am loking for is something that counsellors do, and if they dont thats absloutley fine but at the monent i feel like a counsellor giving feedback to a patient is normal? maybe i am wrong…
If anyone has any info on this or was in a similar situation i would love their adivice on what to do or how to apporach the situation,i would hate to say it to her and have her think that i dont think shes helping me properly as thas not the case at all. Or maybe i shouldnt say anythig at all because maybe this isnt something that a counsellor would do ……………………………….