Today, was a very difficult and heart breaking day for me. I’ve noticed for a while now, that my husband hasn’t been wearing his wedding ring and I finally asked him why? My husband said that “I feel like our marriage isn’t good/strong enough and that he doesn’t want to wear it”! Words can NOT express how much that response hurt my heart and I knew that he was going to say that, too me. I’ve been wanting to ask him that very question for over a month now, but was afraid what he would say back too me. I’ve been trying very hard to fix/save my marriage with my husband and I feel like he doesn’t want to fix or tell me how to fix the problems in our marriage. I know that we had a very traumatic experience last year because of my health and depression, which didn’t help our marriage at all. I take full responsibility for my actions, but every day I feel like I’m paying for that mistake over and over again. I love my husband and love our daughter, an I don’t want to get a divorce at all. My husband wont go to marriage therapy at all and I just don’t know what to do anymore at this point. I feel like I’m the only one tryin to fix or change things for us, an he doesn’t want too or has already checked out of this marriage. Also, doesn’t help that my own parents don’t help me or even care to listen to me crying on the phone anymore, because they love my husband and hate me. My parents have my husbands back but, not mine that hurts deeply. Help Please

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  1. samarkand 6 years ago

    Hi Danygirl, I’m sorry to hear about what you are dealing with right now. I don’t know how I can help except to say that “I hear you” and understand from personal experience how depression and anxiety affects those around you, particularly those you love.

    Are you attending counselling for your depression? If yes, is it possible for your husband to attend one of these sessions as an observer? I found this a useful way to raise awareness of my own struggles and to express my sense of loss to a significant other without pressure on them to participate. Just an idea.

    Take Care, Samarkand.

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