I am angry. I am disgusted and angry. And I have to let go of it because it is not healthy. My husband and I have been working hard at recovery and it's been a struggle the last few months, especially for my husband. His Dad died in May from and alcohol and drug related death. Soon after, a good friend died from an overdose. All the while he has been struggling with his own sobriety and it has been hard to see close one's die of the disease that is/and can potentially kill him. For him I think he's finally come to that moment of desperation and is doing everything he can to recover. And it's been a long time coming. Anyways, my problem is with his Mother. She helps us tremendously, watching our son while I am working. She is obsessed with our addictions and constantly questions us about our recovery. I don't have a problem with that. What I do have a problem with is her trying to tell me and him what to do. She always uses the example of her getting clean a few years after she had my husband and never going back. Well, this woman didn't really get clean she just replaced on drug for another. Alcohol. She's in complete denial that she has a problem, but the rest of the immediate family realises, including her husband but has never really said anything. She's a drunk, and I know 'cause I'm one too. On top of all this, she is having an affair with a man she has been seeing when she was seperated from her husband two years ago. She never broke it off, and whenever her husband is out of town on business, she disappears and is not anywhere to be found. Than when he get's back we are all supposed to get together have a family dinner and Billy and I feel like we are lying because we know about this guy, even though she doesn't directly tell us. This has been going on for two years, and it hasn't really bothered me to this extent until now, when she gets on my husband for lying over the using and she flat out lies to our faces and we know it! It's so uncomfortable. And I feel bad for my father in law. I don't know what her motives are with him, if she feels compelled to stay with him to support her lifestyle (she doesn't need to work or do much of anything) or what, but it puts the rest of us in a bit of an akward postion. And on top of all this, he really loves our son and because my husbands biological father was not a part of our son's life, he has really stepped in and been there for all of us. Now, with another on the way, and knowing the bs that's going on behind his back, it just leaves a bad feeling in out stomaches. Ugh. Has anyone ever dealt with a situation similar to this? It's like a bad soap opera I know. And I've done a pretty good job of not worrying about it. I'm just tired of hearing about what we need to be doing and how to do it from someone equally as messed up, but unaware of their own flaws. It just sucks.