This is something i posted into another forum but it didn't help me i hope someone out there will.
What’s frustrating you the most right now? Tell me what happened, what’s been bothering you and how it’s been affecting your life.
First off, I'd like to thank you for building this site. It's really great to see that someone is willing to help people in need. Ok, so I am a high school student and I was in a relationship with a girl who I met through friends and she went to my school. I'm not gonna bore you with how awesome we were together and stuff but we ended up dating for 9 months. There were a few things that we had troubles with like she hated PDA's and never liked kissing in public or holding hands. I was ok with it. But later on, she started making plans with me and then blowing them off and she didn't really seem to care. Then ran into some big problems like her little brother got caught drinking in school so he got expelled from the district. So obviously she was in horrible moods all the time. But I was there for her every step of the way. Anything she wanted, I did for her.
Then went the semi dance came along we decided to skip it and hang out that weekend. At the last minute she called me and told me she bought a ticket and she wanted to go with her friends. I felt like if I were to go, I’d be "leashed". So I said I didn’t want to go so we made a deal that we'd hang out on the Friday and sun in between the dance. She blew me off that Friday. And even before that she'd avoid me in school and I even saw her flirting with someone else. So I asked one of my friends to spy on her in a way to see if she was with anyone. Turns out she wasn't, but she found out that I lacked some trust. She got upset with me but we worked it out.
So then I came over her house one time and we talked it out and our relationship was stronger than ever. This was in February. The following week was Valentine's Day. I got her personalized M&Ms, a stuffed animal, 9 flowers from the schools fundraiser, and a necklace that was over $60 (I ended up never giving her the necklace & I took it back eventually) and a card. She wasn't in school on Valentine’s Day but her neighbor came to her house and gave it to her. The next day she said she liked them and that was it… no hug or anything… I really started to feel down. Over $150 down the drain. Luckily my birthday was on the 24th and promised we’d be having fun for it. This is where I felt my love for her was at my peak. But she never had time for me with basketball, so we decided to take a break. This was 5 days before my birthday but I didn’t really care because I loved her so much. Like I said before in this, she seemed like she never wanted to kiss me on the lips or anything, but she told me that she was so happy that I was her boyfriend through everything and she missed me and she wanted to give me a bj… I was so excited now for obvious reasons. But when my birthday finally came, she canceled our dinner plans (keep in mind we weren’t actually dating anymore but still in a break. Then the following week she just seemed to ignore my texts and ignored me. Then she told me we should see other people. I turned into a huge baby and begged for her back, I’ll admit that. But do you blame me? After treating me like shit then promising me to be with me on my birthday? This was my first relationship (and yes, I've seen like 10 of your YouTube videos on this and I wish I saw them earlier before I learned it all the hard way.) Then she started flirting with guys right in front of me and turned into a bitch. Luckily, her dad got a promotion and where gonna move down to Philadelphia. <I live in Scranton btw> so that was a blessing. Before that, one of my close friends that was also one of her best friends texted me and asked me to go to the movies with her. I ended up not able to go but 2 days later my ex texted me freaking out that i'm “after” her best friend. So I talked it out with my ex and she apologized for all the pain she caused me and wanted to be friends. We tried it for a while but she kept bragging about all the guys shes been seeing. And this made me feel depressed again so I told her there was no way we can be friends So then she moved away in September and we didn’t talk except for merry Christmas. She also liked some of my Facebook statuses. But what confuses me now is that she has a boyfriend now that is in college and she is a sophomore in high school… idk why a guy in college would what from a girl in high school… and he still lives in Scranton as well… then she came to my school’s homecoming I was dancing with a friend and she was just staring at us… but back with her current bf she constantly posts how much she loves him and that he’s the greatest guy ever and stuff shed say to me only not so public.
.What's your biggest fear about this situation? What is it that really worries you? What are you afraid might happen if you don't do something about this immediately? My biggest fear is that she is going to give him a bj, and I know it will happen. But she told me that am the best and she was saving it for me. And it just hurts that I can’t feel love anymore.
What's your ideal outcome? What do you really want? In other words, if you could have ANY question answered, what would it be? I just want her out of my head and I want to find someone that I’m worth their time. The only problem is that I’m not attracted to nor see myself with ANYONE in my school. Was I a bad boyfriend in some way? I treated her like a goddess. Do you know what is wrong with me/how I can stop feeling sorry for myself? Keep in mind this all happened a year ago
