Well I think my mood would really be disgruntled but unfortunately that wasnt an option!

I am really just feeling like it sucks to be the nice girl who listens and tries to help and gets absolutely nothing in return.  What kind of energy do I put out into this world that I always attract people who need nurturing and "fixing"…and I give so much of myself to help them….and I get nothing? Why do I always do this to myself?

I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 1/2 years who was most definitely in the "its all about me" phase of his life.  stupidly I accepted that fact and tried to support him and help him get his life on track.  And at the end of those years after I had given so much of myself, he dumped me b/c it was finally time to shift the focus to me.  When I finally started doing things for me instead of it just being about him I got kicked out the door.

And now I am chatting with a new guy just as friends…and I am informed that he is also in the "me" phase of his life.  Understandably so.  But again this time as a friend…I am basically being this guy's therapist for free and what the heck am I going to get out of this? NOTHING.  Yes it feels good to help a friend…sure thats great. 

But it sucks to be the girl who everyone uses to make them feel better about themselves.  It sucks to be the nice girl who never actually ends up with the guy.  I am very sick of the mean girls of this world who ruin normal guys for the rest of us!  It isnt fair that they ruin them…then these guys turn to a normal nice girl to fix them…then they leave.  What the heck????

I am sick of the "its all about me" phase that a lot of guys in their 20's seem to be going through.  Where are the guys who actually want to be with someone who is nice?  And not 10 years from now when they want to settle down…but now?

 

2 Comments
  1. maggie 14 years ago

    I hear ya and it is exhausting.

    In my case though, I discovered that I seek out these kinds of people because I need to be needed. I want to help and be that person that can make a difference and then give so much of myself that I am burned out and resentful.

    There are times when I have to summon up all the energy I have to stop myself from doing to much for someone.

    Do you also feel very uncomfortable when somoene goes out of their way to do something for you??? I do and I still am not sure why that is……………

    You will find that guy. Best of luck.

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  2. troubled12 14 years ago

     I agree it does suck that all the MEAN girls can't take it when guys treat them nice .Thats why it is better to just be alone.

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