Hi all….i haven't posted anything in quite awhile…but tonight i really need some other people in recovery and this is the only way i can get it….i had a little over 2 yrs clean for the first time in my life and that ended last September, I think, or August…& now I'm just coming back with 3 days…I am living with my parents…again…for the umpteenth time since I "left" home….I am  41 & have literally nothing to show for my life…well, i did some pretty amazing things when I stayed clean those 2 yrs…but now, I have a brand new baby…2 mos old…absolutely beautiful, just an angel…and her father has yet again kicked me out because I used again…he has given me many chances to stop and stay stopped…before the 2 yrs clean there was almost 2 yrs of just constant relapsing…I say that I never was clean long enough to call it a relapse before…it was just never getting clean, period…but this is definitely a full blown relapse after some really decent clean time and i feel like shit!!!!  I've torn apart my family…i don't know if my baby's daddy is ever going to want me back…& i certainly don't blame him if he doesn't….but that means that my tiny infant daughter wont have a family with a mommy and a dadddy…she'll be just like so many others who have joint custody arrangements & that sucks!!!!!  Well, I have 3 days clean & the most important thing for me to do right now is just to worry about today…its 10:25 and i am certain that I'll be clean for the rest of today…tomorrow I'll wake up & ask God to help me again for tomorrow….i know what to do i just have to do it!  get to a meeting, get phone numbers, get a sponsor & work the steps!!!  right now I'm sort of in "rehab" at my parents without a car or cell phone because those things would just make it too easy to keep using….& i really don't want to keep using….despite all evidence to the contrary, i really do love my baby and her father but nothing i've done for the past 9 months shows any indication of that….my heart is absolutely broken that I relapsed & did this now, not only to myself, but to her….anyway, just reaching out, thanks

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  1. jjrocksarizona 14 years ago

    1. stop kicking yourself in the ass.

    2. get your ass to some meetings and more meetings

    3. the relapsing is over it's time to begin the recovery process

    4. the pain we earn for the lessons we learn

    5. get phone numbers from women in Recovery

    6. Pray to God for help

    7. reach out to the fine ladies with some time on this site

    8. do not try to do this alone

    9. pray some more to God

    10. it's time to try something new

    I don't know if any the above gives you any ideas but it's a place to start. i suggest you talk to Darkblade, YAYA, and they can help you to get started on a new way of life. i have almost 21 yrs clean but i am a male. i would make you the offer to read my 125 blogs i have posted about recovery. you might find some suggeestions in them that might help in the meantime. what ever it takes we do to stay clean. we never have to use again if we follow the guidelines of the NA program. please do me the honor of reading some blogs. especially the last 25 or so. you might find some help. stay clean and be good to yourself.

     

    NA hugs,

     

    JJ

     

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  2. piglet 14 years ago

    thanks jj…you remind me of some of the great people ive met who were there when our book was written…i know your suggestions are solid and it means so much to me that someone out there cares enough to respond

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