I'm recently separated and dealing with a lot of pain and anger towards my soon to be ex-spouse. My ex-husband of 12 years posted on facebook how he's looking forward to new memories he's going to make when he starts his new life. I think I was most upset about how many people liked his comment, including his sisters and a woman he's been texting a lot lately that he cheated on me with a few years back. He tells me this girl from the past means nothing to him and it's just about sex. What hurts is that at one point he tried to make us friends. I was oblivious at the time he was actually sleeping with her. Personally I'd love to knock her out if I ever see her again, but I'm smart enough not to.
Why is it when people get divorced the men are seen as being super dad and get sympathy from other women they want to date. While on the other hand some men might look at the single mother and see children as baggage they don't want to take on. Perhaps my perception is off, but I haven't seen many positive examples to disprove my thoughts. They are afterall just thoughts and feelings that I have from my perspective.
I understand I am a single mother, but it is depressing. I've been hurt very badly multiple times in my marriage and don't plan on entering another relationship until I can love myself again. It is the thought that he has moved on so quickly that hurts the most, the fact that losing me doesn't seem to bother to him. The hardest part for me is letting go of all the pain and anger I feel towards him. I want to feel like my old self again, rediculously happy with my life.