Today is turning out to be a pretty hard day for me and my family. My son and husband are fighting like cats and dogs! My son actually called my husband a b*tch this morning! I don't think he knows what it means really, it just rhymed with what his father said to him, that he's a snitch. I reprimanded Zach and told him he was not allowed to say that word ever again. He apologized to me but not his Dad. Aaron is so angry with him that he can't see straight.
Because of the way my husband handles our son these altercations happen way too often. With me Zach gives me lip sometimes but never the way he does Aaron. Aaron sometimes makes fun of Zach when he does something bad or "diva"-like as Aaron calls it. Zach has an issue with things being done in a certain way because of the Asperger's, and Aaron just doesn't get that it's not being done to make him mad, it's just how the illness affects Zach. I try to accommodate most of those little quirks and Aaron gets angry and blows them all out of proportion. I wish I could get him to see that.
I don't think we're going to have our play date today, the weather is still pretty icky. I'm not sure yet though ~ I have to talk to Mindy. It's not raining, it just looks dreary and gray. Maybe if I give Aaron some breathing room by taking Zach up to the park things might settle down between the 2 of them. I'm not sure though. This fight has been brewing for a couple of weeks. Zach has this sense of entitlement (part of the Asperger's) and thinks he's equal to adults. It's not something that I can change, and it doesn't help that he doesn't have any siblings to deal with, just adults in this household. That's why these play dates are so important to me with the kids.
I'm tired today and a little cranky. I slept till 9:30 and I'm still tired. I was late taking my Ritalin and now I might have the same problem as last night ~ not being able to get to sleep until midnight again. I can always take my 2nd dose a little early though.
I wish things were easier between Aaron and Zachary. It's so frustrating and heartbreaking to see them at odds most of the time. And what can I say to my husband? The reason Zach doesn't respect him is because he bullies him and picks on him. Zach doesn't realize that most of the time his Dad is just playing with him and gets defensive and starts mouthing off, like this morning.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Any thoughts would be appreciated!