i recently went through a breakup, he was my best friend and my boyfriend. we are still in contact and talking like normal, we still flirt, say i love you (etc) just couple stuff but we dont have that status of calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend. i feel that i shouldnt be sad because at the end of the day hes still in my life. i mean things could be so much worse, he couldve left. the main part that i feel is so difficult is because of how much we love each other, we swore to have make sure that we would work through all of our issues and communicate our feelings clearly, but this time it didnt work out that way. he broke up with me because he felt he truly wasnt ready for a relationship and because he thought that i deserved better as i was giving him my all and he felt that he wasnt giving his best. the thing is i wish he had told me sooner so we could work through it as we always have. i understand its his decision but no matter the issue i always helped him so why are things different now? its like me and him are just back in the talking stage right now and are just restarting. i wanna talk to him about considering us to be in the talking stage and when hes ready we can go back to dating but i dont wanna bring it up right now since its pretty recent, and because im scared he’ll change his mind and cut contact with me. i dont know i need to find when the time is right.
recent breakup
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It’s hard to figure out when the time is right. There is a lot going on with him is all I can say. I think he probably has some self-esteem issue with himself. He feels he’s not good enough for you and that he may bring you down. I’ve never been in a relationship myself, but I have felt that if I was with someone, I don’t know if I could live up to their standards. You’re a very good person whose trying to communicate well. When it comes to love and friendship, it’s about trust and respect. From the way it sounds, they are still there, but he needs to be confident enough to know that he is good enough. This is from my opinion and perspective though remember that.