The media manager I had been dating for almost three years proposed to me in 2021. After we returned he grew distant. There has been a whole long course of comments made. He couldn’t get to me because of this project or another.  He fulfilled, the rest of the year doing the thing he wanted to do in 2021. We traveled here and there. When I had something planned he changed the plans to ask me to be with him in CA. He wanted to break up last October and felt the stress of me wanting to know the future too much of an ultimatum. The year, he went on a vacation for himself to a tiki resort, he said I was like a car that could be returned to explain what he felt he needed in a trial. We together, spent the last year and a half him in resistance mode and me, angry that he wasn’t making any progress to seem even interested in having a life together.  He made ever excuse as to why he couldn’t have ever made the concession. Now, I have the engagement ring. I am intending to send it back. I am not so much paralyzed as I am just depressed and disgusted over feeling like this failure.