So I don't know where to go with my boyfriend right now. I'm at a crossroads in life, and this is usually the time when I say good bye to the guy in my life because we're just not working out. Usually it's because we're really just not working out. But me and my boyfriend, after 2 years, are actually still working out. This is a major thing for me. But I feel myself slipping. In my personal life I am slipping in school and in keeping my house clean and in my overall motivation for life. So he has to be noticing this. He's not saying anything about it and it doesn't seem like he has a problem with me, but I dunno. I want him to want to have a house with me and my son. I want him to step in and want to be a family. He is good with my son, but he's not my son's father figure. And I think my son wants that. And I want that. But then I think do I really want that? I think I do. He is living with his parents at the moment while he is looking for a house, and he is looking for a house for just him because he says he just wants a house for "just him for now". He's 36 years old!!! We obviously missed the baby boat. (We've had that conversation) He says if it happens it happens. But he feels too old to have a baby. So that right there tells me he doesn't want one. If he's not yearning for one then I'm not either. Anyway, the house – so I am also in the market for a house. And after two years of a really good relationship I just want a damn house with him and he's not ready for it. When I look at it that way it doesn't sound so bad. But I love him and I want him to want to have a house with me. I want him to love my son.That's all. If you got this far, thanks for reading.

2 Comments
  1. punkey 8 years ago

    YOU SHOULD OPEN UP AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL.EXPRESS YOURSELF TO HIM. LET HIM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM AND WANT TO BE A FAMILY. DON\'T PRESSURE HIM.AND DONT BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF ALSO.

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  2. jabceb 8 years ago

    thanks for the advice guys. I think I need to talk to him about this again in more detail. tell him what I really want. I really want us to be a family. if he\'s not ready for that then there\'s nothing else to talk about. what happens if we stay together? I am a mom. I can\'t go out all the time like we do. I am very lucky in that my parents and his other nana babysit him a lot so I am able to go on a lot of dates with my boyfriend, we go to a lot of concerts and the club a lot. but I cant keep doing this if I am going to be there for my son. because I need to be responsible and save money for a house. I need to be home for him every night and most weekends. we can still have some weekends together because my son is always wanting to stay at his grandparents, but not a lot of weekends. I need to stop separating my time with my bf and my son. I don\'t know. im just venting on here, trying to sort out my feelings.

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