For over a year, I talked here with a girl that was 20 something, and I am 57. She sent me pictures galore, many emails, presents in the mail, and we developed quite a strong bond, I thought. Without much warning at all, she suddenly became a "medium", developed major attitude, and started "dropping" her online family one at a time.

I have no kids, and I asked if she would consent to inherit my farm and meager possessions when I die. It was quickly after this, that she dropped me.

I guess I am an idiot. I guess I have no idea how to act. I guess wanting to help someone without reason was stupid somehow. What do I do with all her pictures? It has been months now and no word from her. Actually she quit talking to me when I told her I had started making bracelets and necklaces with beads, and would she like to know more about it, possibly also try it. That was really when she let me have it, in a very arrogant email that has hurt me all this time. I just sent her an email telling her how bad I feel, and would she please comment, but I don't expect to hear back at all. If you guys ever have this experience, it will mark you for a long long time.

Must we learn to control our love, not want to share our lives, be reticent, careful not to reveal too much, hold back our true feelings? If this is the case, I will find it very hard to be something I'm not.

As for you, Miss Pretty Owl, good luck in your future as a Psychic Medium and whatever else you think you are. I don't think Mediums are suddenly born at age 23. I think if you were truly "gifted" in this way, you would have known it as a child and you would never purposely hurt someone, because that stuff definitely comes back to haunt you, in this life or the next…..

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  1. SaltWaterDrinker 8 years ago

     Ellowynne–

    First off, I am really sorry you've been hurt.  Pain and bewilderment ring through your words, and it's no wonder: being dumped by a treasured friend is no small deal, and when it's compounded by a bunch of trust and confidence issues (as it usually will be), well…that sucks trebly.   I have to say, though, that I am with Liz here: closing your obviously kind heart is no answer.  It sounds from your page that you've seen a fair deal of the world (You live in Bhutan!!! How cool is that?!?); surely you've seen that the world needs more openness, straight-forwardness, and love.  Not less.  I think that after time passes, you'll go back to your default setting of wanting to let people in.  I'd say "just exercise caution in whom you share yourself with," but it'd only be superfluous, as it sounds as though your spidy senses are just fine.  Sometimes it just goes this way: someone changes and needs to sacrifice you on the altar of that change.  It's crappy (and doesn't necessarily bode well for the changer's new path), but it doesn't stand as any indictment or invalidation of you.  

    As for your practical question of what to do with her photos–are we talking print images or digital stuff?  I'm a cautious photo-destroyer (once the past is gone, it's gone–so why cave in the tunnels that let us glimpse back on it?), but am all for comparmentalization.  I'd put any actual photos in a box or envelope, and give it a far corner in your darkest storage space.  And for digital stuff, I'd open a dropbox account and stick it all there, for the time being, at least.  There may come a time when you have a more definite sense of what to do with them.

    Again, I am sorry for you hurt, but don't bury that good heart of yours.

    Take care,

    ~swd

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  2. Ellowynne 8 years ago

    THANK YOU GUYS – MANY ARE HOPING OUR FRIEND REAPPEARS SOMEDAY PERHAPS BETTER FOR HER ADVENTURES, SALT WATER YOU ARE SO BRILLIANT, I LOVED THAT "SACRIFICED ON THE ALTER OF CHANGE" THAT WAS SUPERB.  I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.  YES, VERY VERY KIND OF YOU DEAR. 

    IF YOU DON'T WRITE SOMETHING THE WORLD IS MISSING OUT ON SUCH A LOVELY GIFT OF SPEECH YOU HAVE, JUST LOVELY. 

    I SO REMEMBERED THAT IN YOU.  THANK YOU FOR CARING AND HELPING AND BEING SUPPORTIVE.  ITS ALL IN THE PAST NOW.  WE'VE MOVEN FORWARD, I'M WRITING A BLOG AND ITS VERY CARTHARTIC.  I FIND THAT WRITING HELPS ME GET THROUGH A LOT OF THE EXCESS ENERGY I FIND I HAVE SOMETIMES, SO NICE TO MEET YOU AGAIN…   🙂

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