Wow, been like 6 years now. We gave up on therapy for our daughter because she is 100% unwilling to take part in Dr.s instructions, is and has been constantly beligerent, and forces us into rituals like "Taking things back" 100 times. Now she is a mom at 18 and boyfriend lives with us for a year too. Yet, he does not know that she has OCD!!!??? She hides it in front of him but when he is away or out of sight, she starts in with me, my wife and my other 15 year old daughter. We have been through 7+ psychologists, several psychiatrists, she spit out meds, lied about it, is totally uncooperative, yet demands and expects everything from us. But now, we have a grandchild to consider so cannot do a "tough love" approach and kick her out. One psychiatrist stated we needed to let her hit rock bottom but now, there is a little darling baby in the picture. We'd be letting him hit rock bottom too. So we are trapped with her behavior issues.
She has really tortured us for 6 years with the worst beligerent cursing, kicking holes in walls etc. . I know, she tortures herself too, but literally, anything I ask of her, she does the opposite.
Now she ritualizes making a bottle sometimes for 45 minutes while the baby cries. What to do???? She goes ballistic when I interfere, and I start to lose it and finally scream at her.
She never cooperated with even the slightest behaviour mod exersises perscibed by any of the psychologists. Our last therapist went as far to state to us and her that she was delusional and basically a brat.
I see her as heading for a mental hospital if this keeps up. She has little control and totally succumbs to the OCD . Our family cannot have a normal conversation with her without her accusing, questioning us, making us repeat things, state that we are looking at her the wrong way, breathing the wrong way etc. We just no longer know what to do. What can anyone advise? If I were to go through the everyday list of the things she does that are making us all crazy in the house, it would take an hour. We do not have a normal life with her here, yet she cannot take care of herself, and the boyfriend is not much better as far as being able to support her or him or the baby.