Hey everyone. I just want to go on record and say "Don't try to please anyone." I know a big part of the reason why I have anxiety is because I tried so hard to please people. In my case, I sucked at it! Whenever I have tried, I'm the one who got screwed in the end. I've done everything that I was supposed to do, just not the way that people wanted me to do it. I will give you a few examples of what I'm talking about.
I completed grade levels kindergarden through 12th grade, check…but I was unmotivated from 7th grade and up..to which my mom still reminds me about to this day. I got my high school diploma, check..But, I didn't receive a scholarship. I completed college with a degree, check..But I didn't get an internship. I had friends, check..but alot of them haven't stuck because I'm not the most popular or richest..etc..etc.. I think you get the point.
I'm learning to not care about what people think about me, and not being a people pleaser. Besides..if they see that you ae confident in who you are, they have no choice but to respect it anyways. Okay, some might read this and say why haven't I outgrown that phase yet…however, those who say that may be the very ones still trying to please others themselves..and aren't aware of it. "Just do you!" When I say this, I don't mean be an a-hole about things…Just gracefully, try and prove something to yourself and not to others. As long as it makes you happy inside, that's all that matters. Also, do the right things for the right reasons. Don't let attention seeking be a prime motivator in your life. I know too many who are like this.
Don't let peers or family dictate who or what you are. Show the world who you really are personality-wise. Don't care about if they won't accept you because you're too this or not enough that. If they won't accept you for who you really are inside, then screw them!
I am not writing this blog to gain attention..I'm just trying to encourage who ever this blog touches deeply. I'm sorry to drone on like this, but tonight I had an epiphany and felt that I needed to get this out. Show the world who you really are and shine! Remember..that everyone is unique and they (people who we perceive as better than us) are no better than us. We can do or have anything they have and more! We just have to believe in ourselves. Also, if you do this, you will only gain confidence in yourself. The key words are "confidence in yourself." Pursue your goals and dreams without hesitation. Plan first, and then follow through..one step at a time. Don't let anyone tell you when or how you should go about achieving those goals. You know what's best for you, and that's all that matters. Take care everyone and be you, always.