I have went on a few dates recently, all of the guys acted like they liked me, then they all randomly tell me that they don't want a relationship: they want a friend with benefits. I thought this pattern had changed with a guy I was seeing last week. He was wonderful, he took me out, bought us dinner and drinks, and I had the best night of my life. I even texted my best friend, and told her I was having a good night and he was different from the rest, he was amazing. Everything was going well after that, and for spring break, he had to go and visit his sister in a different state. So he asks me to meet him for breakfast before he left. So we meet, and we were having a wonderful time (he even told me, "You know….you're the last person I'm seeing before I leave"). It was cute, and I was falling for him hard. So he goes on his trip, and is constantly texting me and he even called me almost every day. Then a few days ago I receive a text saying "You are a cool girl and I really like you, but I don't want to lead you on. I am not looking for a relationship right now. You deserve better. It's you call from here". I don't know why, but I chose to still see him. Yesterday we were at lunch and it was hard for me to see him, because I want a relationship with him, and he doesn't. So I asked him later "Are you seeing other girls too?". and he responds with "The fact that you're asking me this makes me not want to see you anymore. You deserve better. We both want different things." So then I am mad because he never wants to see me again and I sent him a text saying he is no different than any other low lifes I've been with, and that I really liked him and he hurt me". That was harsh, I know. But, the text he sent me afterwards killed me. He said "So you want me to feign a relationship with you, then proceed to cheat on you or break up with you randomly?". And he also said that I can judge him all I want, but i don't know him, and he also said he could be an asshole, but he doesn't want to. I am just so distraught over this and I feel so sick today. I feel like he has a cold heart, and I told him that. Sometimes I think I'm the one who ruined it. I just feel like I am not worth it.
Related Articles
-
What fear does to me
So I lived through today…now what? I’ve nothing else to look forward to. My grandmother is coming home Monday…I...
-
-
Rapier
In the spirit of being polite, I'd like to make a follow-up to my 'psa' blog. -user- posts several...
-
Cant really breathe at the moment
I want to type something here which is possitive. So right now im going to explain why i love...
-
Why Can't I Just Realx?
I wish I could just accept myself. But no, no I cannot. Why? Well I wish I knew. But...
-
JUST IN THOUGHT
I am not really in a depressed mood, but i am just kind of just in a nonchalant mood...
-
Does anyone else feel like this?
I dnt know what to do i was extremely happy for the past 2 weeks and this past Sunday...
-
Smack your head on the wall crazy feeling
So its like my second week on Prozac. I hate stopping taking meds..and then going back on. The process...
Seeking an alternative to traditional therapy?
That’s why I’m here. My tools range from innovative new mind-body modalities (e.g., Energy Psychology) to the most ancient spiritual/energetic modality (shamanic healing). These tools enable me to help clients address most of the problems that licensed mental health professionals do – plus some they can’t. And usually do it more efficiently.
This is the main reason I almost always have one or more licensed therapists as clients. See the testimonials on my website.
Personal set-backs and conflictual relationships are common problems that we all can face at some point in our lives. My approach is respectful and compassionate. I have doctoral level clinical training, research experience, several publications, and am adjunct faculty at Virginia Tech.
Ashburn Psychological Services was founded in 2005 by Dr. Michael Oberschneider. The practice has been well received by area professionals and families and has grown to be the home of some of the area's leading psychiatrists and psychologists. We are here to address your needs.
Since 1977 that I am working with divers men and women clients as well as I was fortunate to live in three different countries, plus constantly continuing education and updating my knowledge related to human behaviors, made me a knowledgeable and strong therapist working with individuals and families during their hard time of life.
Washington Psychological Wellness is a boutique-style mental health clinic located in Gaithersburg, Maryland. Our counselors, therapists, and psychologists have a passion for helping members of the Montgomery County, Maryland community fulfill their mental health & wellness goals. Our counselors provide an integrative, holistic, therapeutic approach to treatment and have specialized knowledge and training in individual, adult, adolescent, child, couples, and family therapy and the treatment of various mental health concerns. We value honesty, authenticity, integrity, inclusivity, and equal respect for ALL individuals. We strive to promote excellence in mental health care regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, class, caste, religion, belief, sex, gender, language, sexual orientation, gender identity, sex characteristics, age, health, or another status. Our team promotes a multicultural stance to wellness and will work with you to ensure holistic care. Whether you are facing anxiety, depression, OCD, eating concerns, low self-esteem, divorce, anger problems, bipolar disorder, lack of motivation, mood disorder, social phobia, ADHD, grief, loss, PTSD, trauma, personality disorders, LGBTQ-related concerns, or just overall life dissatisfaction, our therapists are here to help. Washington Psychological Wellness is currently accepting new clients. We are proud to offer HIPAA-compliant telehealth (online therapy) appointments and insurance. Call us now to schedule your complimentary 15-minute consultation!
My sensitive and engaging, direct and practical, style is reported by my clients as one of their attractions to working with me. I work with Children, Adolescents and Adults, addressing ADHD, depression and anxiety, divorce, loss and medical trauma. . I would be honored with your trust in me.
The Resilience Network is committed to strengthening families. We believe that building relationships should be a fun experience. Our approach is founded on the latest neuro-science and research applied in a practical way. Our unique approach allows our clients to find productive ways to problem-solve and interact with the world around them.
Across Counseling is a group of experienced mental health practitioners in Vienna, Virginia with diverse specialties as well as other professionals offering integrative specialty services who can help you to resolve issues and challenges.
The specialties we offer enable us to meet your specific needs, whether you are feeling depressed, anxious, struggle with issues around food, alcohol, or other substances, sexual or gender identity, grief, trauma, family and relationship issues and more.
We also offer an option to work with us using a team approach that can be more effective with multiple members of a family or for clients with multiple issues that respond best to specialized approaches. When needed, the team option enables us to offer a coordinated approach that can be designed to best meet your specific needs. Whether we are working with individuals, couples, families, or groups, we can work together with you to address your issues and challenges and develop a plan to help you to improve your well-being and foster personal growth, to feel better and have a greater enjoyment of life.
I provide professional, results-oriented counseling with a focus on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Hypnosis, methods that more quickly and effectively brings about positive changes. As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I also work extensively with couples and family members on relationship issues.
Are you considering reaching out for support? Could your teenager use some new ways of dealing with stress? Are you hoping for a change in your life? Does your adolescent need a safe place to talk? Do you want to live more fulfilled? There are many changes that come with life's seasons and we're proud to be here to help you navigate them. We help people to develop a self-care plan to deal with stress, cope with grief or loss, deal with past traumatic experiences, and to better manage anger. We can also help you to get along better with family members, improve your relationship with your spouse, and learn new coping skills.
Struggling with how much your world has changed in such a short time? Feeling anxious, on edge, and uncertain? If your anxiety has been triggered by current events, you are certainly not alone. But in some ways, that makes it harder. Everyone is worried and hurting, including you. You can also feel it tapping into some old stuff, magnifying how lousy you feel. You have worked so hard in your life to feel in charge and on top of things but now feel out of control and helpless. It's not a good feeling. Even worse, your usual coping mechanisms -- going to yoga class, getting coffee with a co-worker, or throwing yourself into work -- have been taken away for now. There's no real end in sight and you're not sure what to do.
We understand how awful that feels and want to help. The therapists at Nova Terra Therapy work both online and in-person to help clients like you to identify and deal with both old and new anxiety triggers. We use a variety of approaches but are particular fans of blending cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and EMDR. Using this combination, we help you to get at what's happening in both your mind and your body when it comes to anxiety-provoking or traumatic events. We've found that these two heavily-researched evidence-based treatments are particularly effective at giving our clients efficient, long-standing relief.
Everyone struggles at some time or another. That's life. And when the struggle becomes unmanageable, that's where I come in. As a sensorimotor trained therapist I offer a calming, non-judgmental, and supportive environment to explore your struggles. Part of that exploration may involve how your past intrudes upon your present, and your future. We work together to make sense of what is troubling you so you can become empowered to make the changes that will benefit your life. Are you worth that exploration and making those changes? Absolutely! I look forward to connecting with you.
The Resilience Network is committed to strengthening families. We believe that building relationships should be a fun experience. Our approach is founded on the latest neuro-science and research applied in a practical way. Our unique approach allows our clients to find productive ways to problem-solve and interact with the world around them.
I help people heal from trauma. I use EMDR, Gestalt therapy, and other mind -body methods to address PTSD, anxiety, and depression in ways that are safe, gentle, and effective. If you have any questions, please call me or send me an email .
You are getting things done! You go to work, knock down those goals- your super successful, and yet, things just aren't working. You're not happy, maybe you can't relax. On a normal week-anxiety keeps you up at night. And, with these last few months, you are even more on edge. Maybe it's time you talked to someone who understands the pressures of working and living in the DC area and how to protect your mental wellness.
I value doing deep, attachment-based work that gets at the root of your struggles. Whether I am working with individuals, couples, or families, my goal is to help people feel less burdened by negativity and more connected with themselves and their loved ones. I am trained in Internal Family Systems, a way of working with the brain and body to let go of buried pain and tap into inner wisdom and strength. Lets explore ways to increase your confidence, integrate past experiences, and release beliefs and patterns that no longer serve you.
My approach is collaborative with the individual or family, providing therapeutic pathways & education to promote existing strengths & abilities to sustain achieved outcomes long after counseling is completed. Because of my experience as an Adoption Worker and an adoptive parent, I offer specific supports in the area of adoption and complex childhood trauma.
It's completely understandable to have feelings of anxiety, overwhelm, stress and depression--especially now. Being a human is tough stuff! I want to be your go-to companion as we figure out a way to make these feelings a little easier for you to deal with on a daily basis. I'd love to talk for an initial consultation (totally free!) to see if you think we'd work well together!
Seeking an alternative to traditional therapy?
That’s why I’m here. My tools range from innovative new mind-body modalities (e.g., Energy Psychology) to the most ancient spiritual/energetic modality (shamanic healing). These tools enable me to help clients address most of the problems that licensed mental health professionals do – plus some they can’t. And usually do it more efficiently.
This is the main reason I almost always have one or more licensed therapists as clients. See the testimonials on my website.
Personal set-backs and conflictual relationships are common problems that we all can face at some point in our lives. My approach is respectful and compassionate. I have doctoral level clinical training, research experience, several publications, and am adjunct faculty at Virginia Tech.
Recently Active Members
You obviously are a sweet person for giving him a chance. He is the one with the issues. You are worth it. I don't even know you and I can tell you that you shouldn't think that about yourself.
Hang in there
Thank you so much, that meant a lot to me. I thought I was the one that was crazy.
So proud of you that u told us this story… you’ll find ur one and only .. trust me . The one you deserve x