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Bait the God
seekandconstruct, , Depression, Domestic Abuse, 0
My chest never stops hurtingEven when the heart has stopped beatingThe relentless feelingof a never ending pain and the...
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Norah Jones
sosgirl, , Depression, 0
-x-norah jones – feelin the same way .mp3 Found at bee mp3 search engine The...
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I don't know how much more i can take
Justin14, , Anxiety, Depression, Stress, 0
the title says it all. i\'m struggling my ass off out here in cali, and (to be a broken...
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No one to talk
AloneForever, , Depression, Sleep Disorders, 0
i doubt anyones reached the depths of loneliness i have.Im not very good at expressing myself to healh proffessionals....
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Life advice
exdeath, , Depression, Relationships, 0
You're now chatting with a random stranger. Say hi! Stranger: I NEED ADVICE You: what about Stranger: well are...
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Fed Up
missy031205, , Depression, Addiction, Lesbian, Gay, LGBTQ, Relationships, 0
I have been letting my sister and her son stay in our home for about two months now, because...
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So about this week….
Spookloops, , Depression, Anxiety, Career, Depression, Grief, Questions, Relationships, Sleep Disorders, Therapist, Therapy, 1
I'm finally on a computer upon which DT doesn't look broken or crashed. I apologise, this might be a...
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No No No – its not happening!
snow, , Depression, Anxiety, Relationships, 1
ok so i know life isn't a bowl of cherrys and i'm not gonna beat this in one day,...
sometimes you have to stop and smell the roses. You don’t want to be running so hard you trip over your own feet.
I guess what I mean by that is that it’s time for you to unravel. you have a counsellor who is there to tease apart this tangled ball of wool that is your history and your soul. don’t throw the future into the mix as well! Yanno? š Just keep this simple, take your life as it comes and give yourself the next six months or more (took me longer than that and one visit a week is definitely helpful) to detangle your history and your past.
What I found with therapy was that things would happen in the now that would upset me, and trigger things from my past. Which we would then talk about and uncover new angles. my counsellor was absolutely amazing, and was happy to take the world from a position of me being a human being, with problems and a history; not me being a case study.
He could come up with reasons and ideas I had never thought about, which allowed my triggers and little hidden mines to defuse and disappear. He cleared my emotional minefield. Well, I did most of the work… I was committed to clearing it myself, so that my future could begin.
I don’t think your future can really begin till you’ve put your past to bed. So don’t worry about the future. When you are all clean and clear you will be able to start having positive, interested, brave views on what you would like to do with it. But right now any plans you make will probably be distorted by the pain you are in.
xx. all the best! You go girl. You’re doing great. š
Good advice and perspective from the other comments. I would add: volunteer somewhere. You get purpose in helping others. No matter how small or how insignificant it may seem, it is important to someone. The smallest acts of kindness go a long way. (Help someone put their groceries in their car). Even if you only volunteer once a month it will help you. Good luck on your journey. I know ho hard it is to start out with a new provider. Glad you got past the intake person and stuck with it.
To figure out a path for the future, it all starts with figuring out who you are in terms of your core personality, preferences (likes and dislikes), strengths, undeveloped talents, and weaknesses.
You mentioned that “The dreams that I had before turned out not to be the correct path for me” and “I feel like I forgot how and like Iām losing sight of who I am”, which shows that you have some sense of who you are. Pursue this line of inquiry into who you are as far as possible until you feel completely clear about yourself.
Once you have that all figured out, figuring out a path is relatively straightforward. I found that the best path is one that aligns the closest with who you are, uses all of your strengths/talents, and doesn’t require any of your weaknesses. The path should be an expression of who you are. If it’s the right path then the process of simply walking that path will give you happiness, not you’ll be happy only once you reach the destination.