First off, I AM FREEZING.
I have a cold, had a hard time freezing, and I've JUST noticed that the heaters in this damn apartment aren't giving out any heat. This place gets darn cold as soon as they turn off. I hope this isn't the same situation as before when we first moved in and my landlord took 3 days to fix the problem. Doesn't anyone else here have any complaints, really?
Anyway, I was on another forum, (entirely unrelated to this one), and there was this silly debate. Somehow the other people twisted by debate into something it wasn't; which really ticked me off. But I shouldn't be concerning myself with something so trivial. Urgh. Bad me. omgz111!! some1s rong on the interwebszz111!!!!
Here's a poem I liked and I'll put it up again, it's called "Listen." I'm sure most of you have had someone try to give you advice or disregard your feelings. Make sure that when a counsellor is counselling you, that they're not handing out advice, or giving your catch phrases, or rescuing you … everyone of us here has probably had some sort of assistance or is looking to seek out some. Just be on the look-out.
I DID NOT WRITE THIS! No one knows who did. There's different varieties of this on the internet. If you look it up, you may notice some of them emit the God and prayer part, or add little things to it.
When I ask you to listen to me, and you start giving advice, you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I asked was that you listen, not talk to or do — just hear me.
Advice is cheap. Ten cents will get you both Dear Abby and Bill Graham in the same newspaper.
And I can do for myself; I'm not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.
But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and can get to the business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling. And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them. Perhaps that's why prayer works for some people because God is mute, and He doesn't give advice or try to fix things.
So, please listen and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn; and I'll listen to you.