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My name is Nicole, I hope everyone had a good holiday. I know I am probably much older than most but lately, I've been dealing with an issue where I live. I titled my blog, mountain out of a mole hill because I'm probably just over reacting, but it feels like I am at my wits end.

I thought maybe if I just have the opportunity to get some advise it would help me a little better. I know some of the things that people go through is far worse than what I am experiencing. Some may even think I am simply stupid, and to get over it.

Where I live, in an apartment there are a total of 18 apts, I live on the first floor, so there are 2 more levels above me, no one below me, it's a complete apartment complex, called Racquet Club Apts. Been here now for 14 months, in that time, the apartment above me has had so far a total of 3 different tenants. The first two, heard nothing, no noise, pretty quiet, except for the fact, tenants number 2 had 2 people living in a 1 bedroom and since two of them slept on the floor I could hear the ocassional snoring. But never a problem.

The tenants that just moved in a month ago are the worst, it's a boyfriend and his girlfriend. Since we didn't even know tenant number 2 moved out when we heard loud banging one day as I was working (I work for a vacation company from home) I called the rental office and they informed me someone was moving in, so for the remainder of that day, I had to somewhat adjust my work schedule because of the noise. Not really a big deal. But as the days went by, the noise changed and then I began to hear a child constantly running back and forth and stomping and banging. You think, new apartment, family maybe visiting, no big deal. Then I began to notice it at certain times, I figured contact the rental office, I thought that would be a little more professional than knocking on someones door. When I called the office, and advised them about the child the regional office told me the tenants are a boyfriend and girlfriend no child. I was certain it was a child because the walls and floor are so cheaply made, you can hear just about everything, including the child crying. I was told they would look into it and get back to me.

I advised the regional office that since I only work from home 3 days a week and my hours are 11:30am-8PM EST, I am not asking them to be statues, just try to lower the kid from constantly running, stomping and jumping. We find out that, she babysits a child Monday-Friday from 7:30am-5PM, again, I have no problems with that, but when I work, the noise is bothersome. It appears that the lady that babysit, took the rental office advise offensively, and since the rental office told her my work schedule, on those days, the child would get much worst, and it even sound like the babysitter was banging as well. Yes, I decided to bang back. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but , I thought I tried approaching the matter a bit more professionally by calling the rental office. I was not looking for The Hatfields and The McCoys (now you can tell how old I am, lol).

But through all this when I would retailiate it would be at night, late night to purposely wake them up, it worked. But the boyfriend had no clue to what was going on, until he came to my apartment and asked. She was telling him lies, basically telling him I was just banging, just to be rude. He never knew about me working and the child going crazy throughout the day. What this has done to me, my work has been affected, I was accused of being the unruly one by the rental office, even though I was the first to complain, and I live downstairs. They also banged so loudly when they first moved in, they actually broke a chandelier light fixture in the dining room area. With all that the rental office still came to my place and made me out to be the bad guy.

When I wouldn't do anything at all, no retailiation, the noise was still there, when the male tenant came down to our apartment 2 days ago, my own husband heard the confrontation and would not even defend me, when the rental office lady came to my apartment and started yelling at me, he did not even come to my defense.

I work from home 3 days a week and just want to work peacefully. I don't know but I have cried daily. The rental office has asked us, why don't we put you in one of our townhomes, not at the same price we are currently paying but at a higher cost, because they do not have one bedroom townhomes. So I am not sure what to do, since my husband will not support me on this, I thought about leaving him, moving to MD for the meantime and live with my daughter until I can get myself on my feet again..

But stuoid me is considering suicide, I think twice about it all the time because I have a daughter, she's 28 years old, I raised her by myself. She knows her mother as strong. My heart beats so fast, I rock backand forth, I see myself staying away from the kitchen, because of knives. I started taking Benadryl, to fall into a deep sleep to keep my mind off of suicide. I can't take it

4 Comments
  1. fran 11 years ago

    My heart and soul feels your cry I also have been considering suicide. I've been depressed for a very long time and can't find the person I use to be. I also have a 30 yr old daughter with 3 beautiful children and a son with 5 children .I'm thankful for all of the gifts God has blessed me with but I'm finding life very difficult. So please don't feel stupid . You are not alone. God and family love you . you are a beautiful human being and God's creation. God will never leave your side. Keep the Faith

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  2. Lethaiwepn1 11 years ago

    Since I only signed on to this site today. I hope I am responding to the comments correctly. Thank you for your support and help.

    I just feel so very alone.But I knew if I come online, I would be able to find someone to talk to, maybe even someone that's experiencing the same thing.

    I just can't seem to stop crying. I work from home because I have epilepsy, and my neurologist suggested no driving, so I was allowed to come home and work. I think this is so frustrating because I am not allowed to drive. Thenit would be an easy fix, just go into the office to work.. I am on medication to help my seizure, the medication for the seizure works well.

    I want to live, I don't like feeling lost and confused. I remember a time, when I was so full of life, not anymore.

     

     

    Thank you kindly Heather and Fran, I will continue to take each day one step at a time and I will seek some help, to get me through this

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  3. Andie372 11 years ago

    Please contact a mental health professional Monday. You are crying out for help, and there's no reason to go it alone. We all need help sometimes so don't feel ashamed. Keep posting here and that will help in the meantime. Hang in there and I know it doesn't feel like it but you can get better.

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  4. flowermantis 11 years ago

    Hi Nicole, your situation sounds extremely stressful , I would be the same if I had to deal with that so u are not over reacting, anyone else would also be very upset in the circumstances , I would for sure. I too am in a very hard situation and I know what it's like to feel trapped and scared . I am trying to keep a full time job under very hard circumstances, if I lose my job I am on the street as I have I support system at all , just me. Get some counseling and go to the doctor if u feel u need to, it may help. Keep coming on this site, I read the blogs daily and it has helped me immensely to know I'm not alone in facing horrific problems. Don't worry about your age , many of us are older, I am 47.Try to keep as calm as u can, that's wat I do , it dosnt always work but wen I lose it and cry and scream about my problems I feel exhausted so I try to keep going one minute at a time. Take care of yourself and try to keep coping as much as u can.
    Flowermantis 🙂

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